I’ve been posting in OYS. Stats 39 yo 200lbs bench 215 around 15%bf wife 40 married 7 years 2 kids major oneitis beta but making major progress last 3 months.
Sex has been improving drastically but I have huge validation seeking issues.
My smv is high and she knows this. This though makes me doubt that the sex is true attraction sex and she’s just transactionally fucking me to keep me.
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The issue at hand is I am away this weekend across the country from her. We had a good week but she put up various resistance that annoyed me during the week. We had sex but she said no to dressing up and was generally just not as submissive to me as I wanted her to be. So I’m out here and I send her a pic of me in the morning... I’ve been making major fitness gains and I look good. She liked the pic a lot so I told her to send me one of her body later... surprise me. She said “OK, I will! “. She never does.
Now this wouldn’t be a big deal but I sperg out and tell her that she’s lazy and takes me for granted and doesn’t really desire me and we have a huge fight over the phone. I was doing good for a long time but I was so angry in my head for whatever reason that she wasn’t complying. I’ve made a bunch of requests lately and she doesn’t comply or says yes and then never does it. On the other hand sex has been frequent and quality has been improving.
I fucked up huge by communicating over the phone that I was annoyed with her non compliance. I have no clue how to proceed when I get home tomorrow. What is the best way to salvage this misstep?