....is a RED ALERT, nuclear launch detected red flag in your relationship.

Women have their own way of communication. It confuses men who don't pay attention. The point at which a woman directly criticizes another woman is the point of war. It's that serious.

Their entire social web is held together by NEVER being directly critical to one another.

The point at which your woman is overtly communicating at you is ALSO that serious. However, it's usually not war. It's total desperation.1

Your wife, girlfriend, whatever has exhausted everything in her playbook and is willing to go against her entire life's experience, hell, go against her fucking biology by the time she is straight up telling you what's wrong. You have officially Fucked Up Big Time™ if this happens.

When you hear unfiltered, unapologetic, aggressive aggressive (as opposed to passive aggressive) language, you are officially on notice.

Hopefully, this didn't happen to some of you. But for many, it did, or it will. Be aware.

You don't want her to talk to you like a man - it means she thinks she has to be the masculine one now. You can guess what she thinks of you as a "man" after that.

(1) if it's war you need to gtfo. She is irredeemably crazy.