Wanted to check in with wife after we both had a long day. I left the house after working, feeding kids dinner, taking them on a bike ride, read books from Jocko and installed an ice machine. I text wife to let me know when she was on her way home so I could hit the gym. Work meetings prevented my lunchtime routine.
Wife gets home and is mad. Kids are playing outside and end up shooting each other with hoses. Nbd, just being kids. She attempts to bitch but I just leave while her words are still following me out the door. Apparently she expected me to shower the kids. It was only 7 and figured she could. They basically do it on their own now, it isn't hard. If she had asked me, I would have done it but that wasn't part of my plan for the night. We were busy doing cool shit.
I come home from the gym and literally forget about the situation because I DNGAF. My frame was that I owned my shit and was a good dad. In her mind I'm a selfish prick. I allow her 15 minutes to spill her guts. She refused a check in but I was OK letting her vent but I was only listening.
Long story short, back in Jan I told my good friend about RP. I thought he would love it. He did not. Got pissed at me and told my wife I was going to manipulate her and all kinds of things. That surfaced during the convo. She bought A book about about Alpha males and is reading all about me. "Says" she wants no part of it. I let her finish and the timer goes off. I go back to my phone. Finally I say "bummer. That is really unfortunate to hear. " Wasn't well received.
Similar shit that happened to horns it seems. However it takes a turn because I have spicy latina who wants me to get physical, he has the complete opposite. I leave to go shower so I can go out. Not well received. I recorded it. Door slams. Texts about her deadbolting the door and locking every window. Fuck.
Thoughts here? Go home and assume she is bluffing is my first thought. Plan b is hotel. Plan c is a friend's but not sure who is awake. Plan D is a woman not my wife. I'm at a bar right now and gonna smoke weed with the bartenders.
It's only Tuesday.
Edit: Option A worked like a charm. Now I just need to stroll into bed and hope she is nice and unconscious.
Edit 2: Slept in bed, woke up at 6 and went to teach class per usual. Came home as if everything is normal, because it is. I got an email with her telling me she hates when I leave the house because its female branch swinging behavior. That language wasn't used, but she is familiar with the signs from all her shitty friends who have unsuccessfully done it. "Every time you leave the house I expect you to just cheat." She demanded I respond and I replied "Babe, you know I don't respond to emails like that." Her "Can we chat tonight?" Me while grinning "We can have a check in." She rolls eyes and walks away. Comes back 5 minutes later and asks for a hug. Projects on to me that I am a codependent needy mother fucker. I laughed while hugging her. Lets see how tonight goes. Maybe main event, maybe she falls in line.
Shout outs to modafinil. 5 hours of sleep and I feel like a fucking champ ready to destroy the day.