Anyone else look around and realise that everyone around them is not where they want to be in life?

jonsmif9797 · 2019-08-11T20:15:56+00:00

Yes, especially when you started a few months of RP, and when you are in your early 20s seeing your friends chasing fun and validation.

I was unhappy for a while after a year into college and when I was in LTR. My ex had depression, and I followed the BP script of being empathetic and understanding of her problem. Then, I was done with all the emotional shit. Then I looked around and I felt a gloomy vibe glowing from everyone including myself. Career-driven friends couldn't secure internships, partying friends struggling with GPA and contemplating dropping out, etc. Perhaps my mind was tricking me into seeing things when I felt the hollowness.

Then I broke up with my ex. Then I looked at the script that I have been operating on after I started college.

- Do things the smart way aka take shortcuts.

- Follow the herd. Chase after that cool internships because I will be recognized and approved and my status will shoot above the roof.

- Lifestyle oscillating between two extremes of toxicity - chasing short-term gratification such as video games, youtube, social media, porn, going to as many networking events as possible to pat myself on my shoulder and delaying rewards until retirement such as being a workaholic, etc.

Then I say fuck me. I wanted out. I felt uneasy looking at myself, who has become an adult that I dreaded becoming when I was young. Now I am working on myself, and I feel more alive being single and living in my own reality, all the while constantly moving forward to become a better self.

salinorum · 2019-08-11T21:15:57+00:00

Well, we all have ideals. But life teaches a harsh lesson and that is utopia doesn’t exist. There is a lot of suffering and unfulfillment here and it’s inescapable. Even if you’re red pilled. Even if your Steve jobs. Elon musk. No one escapes the human condition.

It is nothing to be solved because it is unsolvable. The only true progress occurs once you accept your condition and begin to release your mind from its utopian expectations. A well rounded man has integrated and accepted suffering into his soul. And he is more at peace whether he is rich or poor.

Of course we should all strive to be better men, to maximize our potential, to leave a beneficial mark on the earth, on our children. Yet if we want peace at all, we must accept both the bad and good.

dtyler86 · 2019-08-11T23:30:21+00:00

Totally. Occasionally people say, when I say something that is inescapably red pill, that I have little respect for women. My answer is always immediately “oh, we were just talking about some women in this conversation, but I have far less respect for most men than the aforementioned women. Men that check out of their awful job, live for the weekend, justify not working out, accept mediocrity as their norm, hate their girlfriends, take shit from their peers and dress like douche bags because it’s how they fit in and go home and play video games all day: THESE are the people I have no respect for”.

WildCock30 · 2019-08-11T21:35:50+00:00

We were born with a script in our hand, regardless of whether we wanted it or not. It’s up to every single one of us to either drone on or shred the script. It’d be hell on earth for the powers-that-be for us to know our true strength, and choices in life, singularly and collectively. Keep on the path to enlightenment, physically, mentally, and spiritually, brother!

Andrew54321 · 2019-08-11T20:54:49+00:00

Yeah. Everyone around me has a goal they are working for. Its fucking awesome.

Edit: oops didn’t read the post text.

ZealousFeet · 2019-08-12T01:57:24+00:00

It's very therapeutic reading this and the comments. So times I feel lost and It can be stressful at times, but I forget that I am not alone.

ollyollyollyoioioi · 2019-08-11T23:44:49+00:00

It's like a fuzzy feeling reading that. Like I can take my foot off the pedal a bit. I get so caught up searching for a purpose, I forget that so is everybody else.

JedYorks · 2019-08-11T22:22:49+00:00

Life is a meme.

FaP_caesar · 2019-08-11T23:26:11+00:00

Im thinkin diff.

Many is livin they dreamz.

Very few is distracted.

Perhaps im lucky to be surrounded by a bunch of Redpill people.

GlobalArachnid · 2019-08-12T05:47:16+00:00

Exactly why I never bothered to do anything as a kid. Grew up in a family full of losers, everybody in my tiny little town were losers too. I knew from an early age that the people I grew up with weren't going anywhere in life, and I thought that despite my will to succeed and will to have sex and relationships at an early age that I wasn't going to succeed and that I'd end up like those in my little town no matter what I did. I mean, if people wanted to get out and earn money, wouldn't they just leave rural Australia and do it, right?

Norrok87 · 2019-08-12T07:13:07+00:00

Literally had this reality check today.. Or maybe its been going on for a one, but the pieces finally clicked into place today..

For the last two years I've been feeling off.. Just.. I dunno.. A shadow of who I once was.. Almost going through a stage of mourning for the life I use to have.. And then the penny dropped.. Ive spent the last two years working on myself (from self development to just sorting adult shit out), and who I was prior spent way to much time playing video games, watching porn and no plans for the future..

Today the penny dropped that fuck who I was back then, I'm missing comfort and that bullshit lie of the "American dream".. I'm missing the bullshit fairytale Disney ending that I was told existed... I left the military chasing that shit dream, and when I got there I realised what a load of shit it is.. I looked around me and realised exactly what your saying here.. It's all a fucking lie.

So then began self development... the red pill... becoming the master of my own reality. A road I'm truly glad I started.

TheJellyFishLiedToMe · 2019-08-12T13:42:03+00:00

Yeah dude. It seems like everyone's content with doing nothing with their lives.

This is why some people are leaders and some are followers.

uptimex · 2019-08-12T07:13:37+00:00

Yeah, it is a small unnoticeable hidden idea in the deep corners of mind which throws people to hell: I don't deserve it.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2019-08-12T13:46:48+00:00

We're wired for unhappiness, to a certain extent. It's a survival adaptation. You're supposed to yearn for something better so that you'll work to improve your (and your tribe's) position. You're supposed to climb the mountain and investigate the valley beyond - maybe there's better hunting ground there?

Advertisers key in on this instinct by telling you The Next New Thing (tm) will fill the hole and make you happy. But it really doesn't, does it

There are, however, things you can do that will fill that need (at least, better than a new iphone will). Self improvement is a big one. Any hobby where you build or repair something will do it. Stuff like that.

There's no perfect solution though. It will always be a journey. Just be thankful you're a man because the outlets for this instinct are plentiful and achievable, and will remain so all your life. Pity the women who chase attention and validation through social media to find fulfillment. As their beauty fades, they are in for a brutal crash. The ones who invested in family will be fine, but the ones who live online are in for a bad time.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-08-12T15:29:34+00:00

Two truths and a lie:

It's harder to do than it is to not.
The identity of victim is better than the identity of failure.
Most people are happy.

theislander849 · 2019-08-12T13:22:01+00:00

Finding something you love to do in life is very hard.

Making that something pay your bills is even harder.

So... of course most people aren't fulfilled.

Combine that with the current culture of instant gratification, and you got yourself a societal crisis.

OlderRedBrother · 2019-08-12T16:23:13+00:00

This is a great thread, please keep the philosophy coming, I'm enjoying reading and pondering this stuff.

wkndatbernardus · 2019-08-12T20:37:55+00:00

I've been reading the Sword and the Stone with my daughter lately (really interesting book, btw) and there is this awesome part about what to do when life depresses you or you feel angry/sad/upset. Merlin simply advises Arthur to learn something. Haha, that's it! Just start gathering knowledge or skill and the blues will dissolve like Alka Seltzer in water.

Cametotherightplace · 2019-08-13T07:53:05+00:00

Well sure, I think a lot of us would want to be incredibly rich, handsome and have oppurtunities just handed to us. Life isnt that sweet to a lot of us though. I'm not where I want to be, but I'm still happy and enjoy life and so do a lot of the people I associate with.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-08-15T21:05:03+00:00

Just starting to realise how unfulfilled and lost 99% of people are.

Of course they aren't. People who are fulfilled don't accomplish anything interesting or impressive.

People who already feel safe don't protect themselves.

People who don't feel hungry don't eat.

Not sure why this is so surprising to you. Satisfaction is counter to survival.

maljo24 · 2019-08-11T20:02:36+00:00

No. The people around me are basically successful and happy and we are all married, by the way.

Follow the core tenets - be fit, be confident, focus on your dreams and goals - and you will do very well on this planet.

If you focus your energy on spinning plates you will probably ultimately be unhappy. That's my take.

FilthyStylish · 2019-08-11T20:10:32+00:00

It’s because we have dreams and goals that are yet to be accomplished. This has nothing to do with TRP.

Title	Anyone else look around and realise that everyone around them is not where they want to be in life?
Author	TheShearerComplex
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Date	August 11, 2019 7:48 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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