I dated a girl for 2 months. She moved to a city a couple of hours away now and wants to start a relationship with me she says. Now I like her to, but everytime I validate her she pulls back completely.

  1. First time, I tell her that yes I would like to do a meeting (after she asked for it like 5 times, at first I didnt want it.) One week later, she thought it would be better to have no contact and not do the meeting anymore.

  2. Second time, no contact for a month. We get in contact back again, lots of chatting from both sides for a week. She eventually asked if I missed her, I told her I missed her in the no contact zone. After this conversation, she does not react interested anymore and goes like days without contacting.

The thing I want to discuss is, Is this how life is? Can I even after the dating phase not validate my girlfriend? Can I never be my beta / loving self? Does it have to be a game for ever? Or did I just encounter the wrong girl.?

Would like a dicussion