Still on the edge? Social media is probably why.

ThirdLegGuy · 2014-11-26T13:03:09+00:00

The first common step for beginners could be to stop following chicks on FB and Inst and liking/commenting their photos. Once you clear that goal, more awesome things will be down the road. And that time you've spared from this compulsive activity - you are now free to invest it into self-improvement.

through_a_ways · 2014-11-26T15:59:34+00:00

I deleted my Facebook in August and feel amazing. Here is why:

I don't compare myself to anyone
I have more focus on my goals and time to myself
I dont see annoying status updates and posts about politics, the weather or mindless stuff that rots away brain cells
I avoid seeing those stupid selfies girls posts, that are "artistic" in black and white with a stupid quote attached and a hundred likes
I avoid seeing douchey dudes gym selfies (yeah I have a few buds like that)
I cannot incriminate myself through pic or post
It feels like I ended an addiction. I used to browse every morning, evening and night... very destructive id say.

You guys are also very correct. Social networking is a main power source for women. They get loads of attention and it's their opportunity to present how "snowflake" and unique they are... Ironically they all do the same shit.

RAGING_ERECTION · 2014-11-26T15:39:14+00:00

Remember, men are the keepers of time and commitment, women are the keepers of sex.

By liking and commenting on girls status' and photos you are essentially saying "you have successfully captured my attention and I will validate you". You are throwing away your power by giving your attention and validation away for free - this is a huge beta male trait. Alpha males would never give away their time and attention so easily.

Facebook is a waste of time.

BigFilet · 2014-11-26T18:22:18+00:00

I agree that being "thirsty" and providing women validation through likes and comment on their social media is contributory to their inflated egos and generally not a good strategy or use of time.

However, if you are already fairly high status and do live a full, interesting life, then social media can improve your status and extend your social circle out to new women, or those with whom you've lost contact.

Like anything else, your social media presence is a tool. What comes of it is based on how you use it. I've used mine successfully.

Perhaps, a good litmus test of your SMV, alpha/beta-ness is the extent to which your social media can improve access to the women/life/image you want.

Thoughts?

TimPartendale · 2014-11-26T14:41:02+00:00

About a year ago I used to be a beta orbiter for this girl on Facebook - I would like her shit and occasionally comment.

I stopped that, in fact I stopped liking things or commenting on stuff in general. I simply go on Facebook a few minutes a week to comb through any notifications, or if I want to send a private message to somebody. I only upload a 1 awesome photo once in a blue moon as opposed to 16 pics at a time.

I ran into the girl I detached from orbit and she said, "you don't go on Facebook anymore," to which I responded "NOPE, too busy." Haven't talked to her since, but I noticed she likes all my Facebook stuff now -.-

tingetingle · 2014-11-26T14:18:14+00:00

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Ralt · 2014-11-26T18:55:37+00:00

Who the hell uses Facebook like that anyways? I use it to keep in contact with male friends who have left the state, or that I don't see that much. You can use social media to become a bitch, or use it like it was originally designed, to talk to your friends.

yummyluckycharms · 2014-11-26T17:28:03+00:00

Seriously.....social media = gossiping = effeminate.

MustafaIsHere · 2014-11-26T21:59:11+00:00

Very good post. Deleted my Facebook a couple months ago and the only thing it has done is show me who to focus my energy on and actually gave me more attention with women and some men wondering why i don't have a Facebook. One of the biggest attraction a man can have over a women is mystery in his life. If you have a entire history of your life on Facebook about what you did every day and what dumb status you posted well than your not very interesting are you? the entire game is to give a women a rubix cube or puzzle board to solve not a rubix cube thats already done or a 6 year olds puzzle board. Make shit fucking complicated for her to figure out. Fuck make shit in your life complicated where you are still trying to understand and figure out yourself. Men be unpredictable and quit fussing over how many likes you have no one truly fucking cares. If they do they are insecure themselves. Keep your shit as private as possible and locked if you must have a Facebook.

BlueEyezzz · 2014-11-27T10:48:42+00:00

I totally agree. I think I am transitioning to RP, been lurking for a while and a lot makes sense. Coming out of a depression recently and currently preparing to go monk style RP. Anyway:

Beta me three years ago: I broke up with my GF because she was a cheating whore. But, it also totally fucked me over. I was devastated. So, to 'fix' myself, I became a total social media attention seeking junkie... I was on FB days on end, and posted 2 or 3 times a day. The 'aha-moment' came when I was at a party of my fraternity and I spoke to some non-members outside (party was at the student society, mixing with them).

One of those people said 'Ah, you're [name] right? Yeah I know you. You are the Facebook-guy!'. Apparently I got attention and people followed me, but not in a good way. The knew I was a train wreck and chuckled that I was posting this much. It was pretty obvious I was trying to validate myself, in a stupid way.

I learned a valuable lesson that day. Ever since, I have been using social media less and less, only post when I really want something to post, clean up after and keep the amount of public info to a bare minimum. That makes you, in essence, more interesting. People don't know you from social media. They know you only when they start talking to you, in real life.

Grainslol · 2014-11-26T16:37:04+00:00

I just liked a girl's status linking to the trailer for the new Star Wars. According to you, did she ruin my frame or did Star Wars ruin my frame?

robertpaulsontitties · 2014-11-26T16:57:16+00:00

Social networking is mostly like 1/2 loitering in a grocery store greeting card aisle and 1/2 loitering in a grocery store magazine aisle. You're just going to get dumber by the minute.

WibblyWobbly_ · 2014-11-26T15:33:11+00:00

I have never cared much for people on facebook in the first place, but I do not hesitate to laugh at those who constantly give females attention.

epUser · 2014-11-26T15:55:03+00:00

Every time you like something you lose frame and you lose integrity.

Can someone expand on this, i'm still trying to fully grasp the concepts of frame and integrity.

SupALupRT · 2014-11-26T18:00:20+00:00

deleted facebook awhile back. No regrets. several girls contacted me ssking why my fb was gone. Date with one next week 10/10 would delete again.

Dr_Wally · 2014-11-26T18:08:02+00:00

I got rid of mine when it was still just for college students. Never looked back.

royalanarchist · 2014-11-26T18:58:16+00:00

I mainly use Facebook for the groups and pages, I really don't give a shit about following any particular person but still keep it up so I can communicate with my family and people who can't text me as of the moment.

TekkomanKingz · 2014-11-26T19:33:21+00:00

Ever since RP I've been using Facebook a lot less. In moderation it can be a great tool for communication and sharing ideas (including RP, subtlety).

SwissPablo · 2014-11-26T20:01:38+00:00

I keep n contact with people I share hobbies with on social media, but I do take your point. I refuse to Like really obvious attention-seeking selfies from female friends, and don't fall for those deliberately vague posts like "Oh well that's just great" where they want people to ask them "What's the matter hun?".

What I'm saying is social media used correctly can be an aid, it's all about cutting out the useless stuff.

vengefully_yours · 2014-11-27T04:47:32+00:00

I like car related shit, I'm not using it to meet girls, there's no pics of me on it. I keep up with military friends and people I get to see occasionally when I get back where I grew up, and my kids. That's all it is to me.

I meet women the old fashioned way, cold approach in public.

NOFAPFOOL · 2014-11-27T08:27:44+00:00

I was just reading some shitty post some girl made that showed up on my feed. This is the 1st time in 2 years I have had a FB. This post has validated my thoughts exactly on social media. I have a simple FB for a reason. I may even delete it again.

I have recently finished reading "The Rational Male". In the book Rollo Tomassi talks about buffers. Social media is a huge buffer for most people! I have enjoyed going out and meeting women face to face. I find that I am better off learning what works and what doesnt work by hard rejections or successfully getting phone numbers. Facebook has, in the past, given me a false sense of accomplishment when I get a reply or some stupid shit like that! GET IN THE TRENCHES! DITCH SOCIAL MEDIA!

should_ · 2014-11-26T15:59:24+00:00

I agree that hitting Like can basically be giving attention freely and showing you're one of those guys who'll just 'give it up' and not make a move like an actualized sexual person, but a like in the right place (like with someone who actually returns them, preferably a friend) is a form of social proof. When people see you've liked someone's photos or status, unless you have a reputation of being a complete tool, they'll see you are associated with people they may know. And it can be sexually flirtatious since it can fall in line with sophisticated social signals. Of course, as RSD Tyler says, tell that to the majority/mob and you'll have guys going "DURRRR so I like all da photos and I have da social proof now! I'm gonna go to this girl's profile and like ALL of her profile pictures!"

I've dated very RP guys, and likes can be an alpha's game. The most alpha guy at my school noticed me and pelted me with likes, one status after another, until I returned one. Then after a couple of days of silence he facebook chats me, asks me on a date. Then he didn't want it anymore because abundance mentality and my eagerness towards his advances; he wasn't the one who lost frame.

PeteMullersKeyboard · 2014-11-29T03:55:58+00:00

Disagree.

I am a heavy social media user and didn't need this sub to be "RP"...came about it through my own life experiences and lots of thoughtful self-examination.

I think you're way over-thinking this. Trying hard to not care is caring way too much. I do what I want. I have no problem attracting women when I want to. I also enjoy doing what I want in life.

I use social media to inform myself, interact with people I find interesting (male or female) and it's very useful to me.

foldpak111 · 2014-11-26T17:09:59+00:00

Social media is for women. Women don't need to self improve so they have the free time.

alpha_n3rd · 2014-11-26T18:18:38+00:00

I like my old high school oneitus' banal crap because it dreads my wife.

Title	Still on the edge? Social media is probably why.
Author	Red_vsBlue
Upvotes	73
Comments	54
Date	November 26, 2014 12:55 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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