Q4RP: At what point is it acceptable to cheat on your girlfriend/wife?

GaiusScaevolus · 2017-04-07T15:30:46+00:00

Cheating is never acceptable. It becomes understandable when a flagrant disregard for a partner's needs is demonstrated.

fetchyminx · 2017-04-07T15:18:25+00:00

Why doesn't he get a divorce?

wub1234 · 2017-04-07T15:30:41+00:00

Hanging around the bar scene when you're married is just pathetic. By all means get it out of your system when you're hormonal, but don't get married if you still want to do that.

IamTheWalkingMenu · 2017-04-07T17:57:20+00:00

Here's the only acceptable answer. It's from one of the best commentors in MRP. It's when you tell your partner you're going to do it, let them know you're no longer exclusive so they can act accordingly.

https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/63sqni/fr_spinning_plates_as_a_married_man/dfwq5z4/

IamTheWalkingMenu · 2017-04-07T15:49:44+00:00

1) Married Red Pill is not about saving marriages or "making marriages better". Married Red Pill is about showing men how to save themselves and showing married men how to make themselves better.

2) Married Red Pill is also about sexual strategy. it's about how to get these men laid. (That's the "RP" part of MRP.) Hopefully they get laid with their wives; if not, then with other women. That's not necessarily suggesting cheating; but it is suggesting the end of the relationship/marriage if the wife doesn't come around. Sometimes she doesn't. That's the rationale of some for cheating - wife had her chance; she didn't come around. If she won't sleep with him, he'll find someone who will.

3) When you get all the way down to it, the OP's question is a moral one, and one that TRP doesn't concern itself with. Sexual strategy is amoral. So the answers you'll get will depend on the individual TRP/MRP you're talking to. Me? Cheating's OK as long as the man doing it is OK with it and owns it and is willing to accept all the consequences that flow from it.

bala-key · 2017-04-07T16:34:08+00:00

The comments and the upvotes all seem to suggest that MRP is okay with this.

I don't think MRP has an 'official' position either way. Cheating is neither actively encouraged or discouraged.

But it's true that MRP is much more accepting of it than what you'd expect from the general population.

I personally think that can be explained because many of those men come from dead bedroom like situations.

Incidentally /r/deadbedrooms (a non RP sub) is also more accepting of cheating. Being denied by your partner long enough (think years) seems to loosen people's morals...

winterrider · 2017-04-07T15:57:09+00:00

Never. If you don't want to be married, get a divorce.

DemonConsulting · 2017-04-07T18:01:37+00:00

After telling her you don't want to be exclusive anymore and want to sleep with other people/ after you break up/ divorce. The only exception to that if she's an abusive psycho who won't let you leave (like blackmailing you or threatening to harm you or something), in which case it would still be preferable to somehow exit the situation, call the police and move as far away as possible so she doesn't find out and murders both you and the girl.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2017-04-07T15:05:57+00:00

Dead bedroom plus her being evil.

MagicGainbow · 2017-04-07T20:38:39+00:00

Gf? Just leave if shes not holding up her end.

Wife? If she cuts off sex/intimacy and divorce is too costly.

OurThrownAwayDreams · 2017-04-07T21:19:25+00:00

Never. Break it off before you go messing around.

prodigy2throw · 2017-04-07T15:08:00+00:00

If she's fatter than she was the day you met you can cheat on her.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2017-04-07T15:19:36+00:00

Acceptable to whom?

Ercole-- · 2017-04-07T15:35:00+00:00

When is anything acceptable? When you accept it.

And I'll accept it when you and your girl accept it, but disregard that because I'm not you or your girl.

[deleted] · 2017-04-07T18:57:47+00:00

A man is his own judge

This question isn't a question it all. It's a request for men to act like women, and look for herd consensus.

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DarkLord0chinChin · 2017-04-07T15:21:02+00:00

if she agrees

IIHotelYorba · 2017-04-07T16:35:21+00:00

I don't care what some guy does in his marriage. I don't have much respect for relationships in a grand, generic sense as I don't feel the people in them have respect for them. It's not my job to maintain their shitty relationships.

I'm not MRP but I assume many people there feel the same and simply are interested in reading the field reports.

badnews4u · 2017-04-08T04:42:36+00:00

I wouldnt cheat, because thats getting back at a partner. Id end it with her and move on altogether

FairlyNaive · 2017-04-08T13:28:59+00:00

From day 1^/s

PolemicMan · 2017-04-08T21:43:40+00:00

It is acceptable to cheat in 3 circumstances:

Circumstance #1: Your partner cheats on you.

If your partner cheats on you, he/she is automatically endorsing your actions. If He/she doesn't, he/she is a hypocrite, so why do you care?

Circumstance #2: You are in an open relationship.

If you have an open relationship, follow whatever rules you have agreed with your partner as long as they are fair.

Circumstance #3: Your partner doesn't please you in bed, doesn't allow you to explore your sexuality, but you love him/her and doesn't want to hurt his/her feelings.

This is very polemic, but it is true. You must hide it very well, because what cannot be seen, cannot be felt. Ignorance is bliss. You cheat, you take the risk of ruining your relationship, your partner is ignorant and happy and you are satisfied and happy. If you can't handle that, don't even try. One more thing: if you cheat, you give your partner the right to do the same. If that happens, don't be a dick. Deal with it.

This is polemic because people are full of shit. Life is too damn short, so people should stop patronising others with self-righteous nonsensical morals and live the life they choose. Be an adult. Sex and love are not connected. You can love and not have sex. If you care about someone and this person will be mad at you for having sex, just be sure this person never knows. Or split up. Grow up, have sex if you want and carry on. Every other over-reaction is a childish attempt to point fingers, blame people and make a scene. Intelligent people don't have time for that.

Title	Q4RP: At what point is it acceptable to cheat on your girlfriend/wife?
Author	HugMuffin
Upvotes	2
Comments	98
Date	April 7, 2017 3:02 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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