Getting rejected by women you can do better than

hyperrreal · 2017-03-27T15:40:50+00:00

Removed - no woe is me posting.

wub1234 · 2017-03-27T14:50:17+00:00

Women don't assess men on some static, objective scale, they're individual people with individual preferences.

EliteSpartanRanger · 2017-03-27T14:54:13+00:00

It's not "I'm a 10, you're a 7, so you have to say yes."

It's about whether she likes you or not. If a woman is not into Chris Hemsworth's looks, she will reject him even if he is a 10/10 to the majority of women. Women are also more likely to reject a guy if their personalities don't match.

There's no formula for human interaction that works 100% of the time. This is why the redpill doesn't work. Redpill tries to attach a formula like "I'm fit, I work out, so i should have a girlfriend" when it doesn't work that way. There are many more variables there.

[deleted] · 2017-03-27T14:39:43+00:00

Don't worry buddy, all those women who rejected you despite obviously being less than what you really deserve will curl up into the fetal position and cry their hearts out once they know just how much better you're able to get.

Littleknownfacts · 2017-03-27T14:40:18+00:00

Lol there's a million reasons a woman might reject a guy that has nothing to do with you. Maybe she does have a boyfriend, maybe she is on the rag, maybe she saw you hitting on another chick 5 minutes ago, maybe she doesn't like your sports team hat.

Also, no she doesn't care if she finds out later you can do better, at the very worst it's like 'meh'... Because women have an abundance mentality, a missed chance with you is not a big deal if there's another dozen yous just around the corner.

Alth12 · 2017-03-27T14:42:22+00:00

This happens when I cold approach women

Then you don't know why they're rejecting you. They may already be in relationships.

A person rejecting you doesn't necessarily mean they think they're "better" than you. It's not always a value judgment. There are a million reasons to turn someone down.

I know plenty of guys who are objectively hotter than me and capable of getting objectively hotter women than me, who I wouldn't go out with for compatibility reasons. And no it wouldn't bother me to later see them with someone hotter. Why would it? I didn't want to go out with him anyway.

Edit: Also, as a fairly unattractive woman, let me just say that this attitude is often why we reject men who are "out of our league." It is palpable when a man feels like he's doing you a favor or "slumming it" by deigning to show any interest in you. I may be ugly but I'm not stupid.

prodigy2throw · 2017-03-27T15:08:44+00:00

You can be the sweetest, juiciest peach on the tree but some people just don't like peaches.

FairlyNaive · 2017-03-27T14:57:35+00:00

Boy, oh boy, you are in for some fun ride in cold approaches with that mentality.

philomexa · 2017-03-27T15:21:15+00:00

When a woman rejects a guy, do they care if they later find out that he's able to do better than her, but doesn't care because he chose to approach her?

No, they cease to exist once they've left the woman's field of vision. Sorry but there's an endless trove of chucklefucks out there (yourself included) spitting day game thinking it means anything to a woman (high, average, or low smv) just going about her day.

You may feel resentful a low smv woman rejected you, but as far as shes concerned you're just anon dick #17 up in her shit when all she wanted to do was go to the post office. She doesn't know you, and she doesn't care about who, what, or how many women you've picked up either before or after her. Why should she?

Plenty o' dick out there, she'll be fine either way.

Joey992 · 2017-03-27T14:50:01+00:00

I got some news for you: men are thirsty as fuck, they can easily do better than you. and no, they couldn't care less what the other girls you've slept with look like... the only one who gives two shits about that is your ego. you are not even a blip on those girls' radar.

sublimemongrel · 2017-03-27T15:30:54+00:00

This highlights something I think worthy of pointing out: you're having better luck meeting women through work or through friends -- approaching women in any scenario is dependent upon her: is she single, is she looking, is she attracted to you, is she busy going about her day? These things are more likely to be quickly sorted out when you meet women socially, like with a group of friends or colleagues. OR if you're having your friends/co-workers set up a date, you will both likely be single, looking, get some information about each other before agreeing to date/hook up.

Those types of meeting scenarios also mean she most likely gets to know you a little bit prior before deciding she's into you. Cold approaching women removes this element. And this element is very important when it comes to women's sexuality.

[deleted] · 2017-03-27T15:33:55+00:00

You're sailing pretty close to the revenge fantasy wind here my friend.

When a woman rejects a guy, do they care if they later find out that he's able to do better than her, but doesn't care because he chose to approach her?

Most of the time how the fuck would they find out?

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2017-03-27T15:45:56+00:00

Lol why would any woman care what happened to some dude she rejected who cold approached her are you crazy?

IndisputablyNotACop · 2017-03-27T15:16:20+00:00

They aren't evaluating themselves or yourself in the same way that you are. that should be clear. If she could see your objectively higher smv and was rational as you are, then she'd have made the decision that seems rational to you, right? So her rational evaluation must look pretty different to yours.

Different how? Seeking an easy answer to this is one the core problems with most TRP dialogue. The science of relationships has an awful lot of unanswered questions.

Lyanina · 2017-03-27T15:22:36+00:00

A woman rejects a guy because she wants to reject him. Maybe she isn't attracted to him, maybe she isn't available, maybe she's not looking for anything for whatever reason you'll never know (especially true for cold approaches). None of these reasons for her decision would be affected by her awareness that "you could do better" than her. That never crosses her mind. She just goes, Nope, not interested and then forgets about you.

rreliable · 2017-03-27T15:45:37+00:00

Yeah, the best way to deal with this is to use your brain.

If a guy has approached 1000 women and successfully bedded 100 of them, he's easily in the top tier of studs.

Yet he has nine failures for every success, and most of the women he's been with aren't among the most beautiful. So this man, more successful sexually than almost every man you have ever met, has the same issue: he too has been rejected by women whom he can do better than.

The difference? He's aware of how unimportant that is.

You need to cultivate that awareness.

BPremium · 2017-03-27T15:05:19+00:00

yup it sucks. thats what happens when women have options

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[deleted] · 2017-03-27T15:28:01+00:00

Probably not. Women have reasons of rejecting men outside his prospective choices. It doesn't matter if you can do better than her if she doesn't like guys with dark hair. (That was a really shallow example, but I hope you get my drift.)

Title	Getting rejected by women you can do better than
Author	Joey992
Upvotes	1
Comments	68
Date	March 27, 2017 2:35 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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