So I've been lurking for a long time now and reading all the material I can here but honestly I'm still confused on one major factor: how can I be alpha without being a pure narcissist?
I understand that women want to have the kids of alphas, which are dudes with dark triad personalities, ie: narcissism, psychopathy, and machiavellianism. And in terms of settling down they want a guy who is beta which basically means gives a shit about her and provides for her and protects her, but doesn't give her the actual full on attraction an alpha does, which is why women resent their husbands and cheat.
So basically if I am either of these, I can't have an actually happy relationship because I'm either up my own asshole and incapable of empathy or care for another person, or I'm a cuck. ie: a "bad boy" or a "nice guy" and both sounds like losers to me, just in different ways.
I know a lot of guys here promote being as alpha as humanly possible, but being any of the three dark triad traits is not a good thing. Being a dark triad is a mental disorder on the extreme and those are not traits that will lead to a happy life, unless you consider being a sociopath a happy life. It'll get you laid a ton but I have other things in life I value besides pulling in as many sluts as I can at the cost of my soul and I actually want a relationship. However, as a beta I'll always be resented and cucked and cheated/divorce raped, which is a nightmare.
Is it possible to achieve both the positive of alpha and beta or is being a man basically choosing one of these paths and sticking with the fucked up life? I haven't seen this addressed much because most of the guys here just want to get as much pussy as physically possible and the few LTR threads I come across seem to treat relationships like sex dispensers and claim any amount of emotional connection at all is a failure. I'd appreciate some insight on this, thank you.