Why does my good guy game work so well?

latinmax68 · 2019-12-24T20:08:15+00:00

Maybe that’s who you are at core and that’s why it works well. If being a good guy comes naturally and girls like it more that way, why change it? Be who you are rather than a chad wannabe

nexther · 2019-12-24T20:45:22+00:00

You sound like a teaser who treats them like little girls. They like that stuff.

It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.

CHEEKY_CUNT1 · 2019-12-24T20:53:11+00:00

Theres a difference between being a genuinely nice person, while still being confident, strong, interesting etc., and being a “nice guy” who lets women walk all over them, holds the door and puts his jacket in the puddle for them to step through. Sounds like you’ve got the better of the two.

hatefulreason · 2019-12-24T20:21:27+00:00

authenticity and back-bone

Astoree · 2019-12-24T20:35:44+00:00

What the other guy said. Your actions and tone are congruent with your words. In other words, you're likable and want to get in their pants and they know it but it's your authenticity that attracts them even more.

I understand it because I'm the same, naturally good guy. TRP principles however still apply.

RedJourney23 · 2019-12-24T20:50:24+00:00

If you look good enough this strategy will work just fine

MasculineRP · 2019-12-24T21:04:11+00:00

If you want to "level up" with girls try and utilise push/pull (Todd V has a heap about it on youtube if you're interested). That alone helped me a heap.

When I was a little younger I'd run a somewhat similar game to you and it worked for sure. If it's congruent with your personality and who you are it will always work with the women who find that attractive.

6PoolVsTrumpWall · 2019-12-24T21:30:40+00:00

I know what you mean op. If a girl has nice eyes fucking tell her. She will swoon at the simplest and most tired words if they’re authentic and have psychic energy

Jesusfeminist · 2019-12-24T20:34:52+00:00

Love bombing game, works for some guys

liquorbaron · 2019-12-24T22:04:31+00:00

So... you're charming... is what you're saying...

qiis · 2019-12-24T20:45:00+00:00

What do you look like? Rate your face and how tall are you?

Also, are you gaming ugly girls, average ones, or 9s?

jaw8625 · 2019-12-24T21:02:31+00:00

I actually have very similar game, and it works well for me too. I also look at them like I want to ravish them then entire time. Break eye contact just to check them out. I've fucked on many, many a first date this way

gitpullhoes · 2019-12-24T23:57:48+00:00

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king_smirker · 2019-12-25T06:48:43+00:00

It’s almost 2021 and people still give credit to that bad boy shit. It was all brainwash by nerds for nerds in the pre-social-media times. Those nerds sucked with women and saw the criminals getting laid and thought they had to be one. Authenticity of emotions and not giving a fuck is what gets you laid, not putting up a front which anyone can easily see through.

boy_named_su · 2019-12-24T21:16:33+00:00

You're probably handsome. And you attract the kinda chick that thinks they want that. I'm guessing they dont stay around for the long haul or do filthy shit for you

fratercicero · 2019-12-24T20:48:58+00:00

It sounds like you are just a very physically attractive guy. When you’re good looking it doesn’t matter what you say or do, women will just want to get with you.

aliezsid · 2019-12-24T22:23:39+00:00

I wish I could give an input but I hardly talk to people

skunkbear444 · 2019-12-25T02:25:59+00:00

Lots of game styles work with a segment of girls, but not others.

If you are getting the girls you want don't change. Shifting to the bad guy can be a tool to deal with crazier girls, stubborn girls, bad girls, shady girls, damaged girls. It can also be a great tool to deal with bad behavior. Sometimes girls don't want you to be the carefree guy with loose boundaries. Sometimes they want a strong and cutting show of distaste for poor behavior to be "put in their place" for bad behavior verbally.

For me being the good guy never worked and I got burned. Being the "bad guy" and an aggressive partier worked for me the best. Maybe that is a reflection of me being congruent with my true self and I attract girls attracted to that true self.

People look down on being a chameleon, but a chameleon will have the most success with widest range of girls by shifting yourself to push her buttons.

vondoom900 · 2019-12-24T20:57:05+00:00

Decent looking probably.

thrwy75479 · 2019-12-24T22:58:14+00:00

How old are you, whereabouts do you live, and how do you meet these girls?

Most girls always tell me they can’t read me and don’t know if I’m a sweetheart or an asshole piece of shit.

You're probably not being as sweet as you think.

Lifteador · 2019-12-24T22:58:45+00:00

Frame

rizzyfromthe9 · 2019-12-24T23:14:05+00:00

You might be a romantic, which can work

If they can’t read you, you’re doing something right

FereallyRed · 2019-12-25T00:04:21+00:00

http://archive.is/YxwGz

Gawernator · 2019-12-25T01:40:19+00:00

I’m not sure who said to not compliment girls. But there is a right and wrong way to go about it. Everything has nuance.

catbrainland · 2019-12-25T04:57:08+00:00

Lovebombing/charm got summarily bad rep in PUA, probably because many guys in there come from a "nice guy" background. Like alcoholics that can't drink recreationally anymore. But it really is that simple - be as glib as possible, yet don't be a doormat/pleaser.

2019-12-25T05:45:22+00:00

Do what works best for you.

This is a great PSA to the keyboard warriors of the manosphere that you still have to be a legitimate member of society and a nice person in order to get laid.

Why your compliments work:

They're genuine
They're regulated. You're not complimenting her every move or putting her up on a pedestal. Everything she does isn't the greatest thing that ever happened. The reason 'don't give compliments' is given as beginner strategy is because it leads to pedestalization, and most beginners use compliments as love tokens I.e. I compliment her 1000 times=1 blowjob. That's not the way it works.
They're mixed up. You're not being a 'nice guy'. You're mixing it up with IDGAF shit test passes, using pressure flips (my favourite too). Most guys who give compliments it's just a constant stream. You're proving to women you're a legitimate member of society but you don't always colour inside the lines. You're keeping them guessing.
You're complimenting their work, not their inherent characteristics. These are universally acknowledged in dating games as the best kind of compliments. You're complimenting their hair, nails etc. These are things women work on in order to attract a man. You're communicating you noticed, you're sexual, and you reward good behaviour and looking good for you. You're not complimenting where she came from, the size of her boobs, and yes, her personality, things she has much less control over, the last one because her interests are just an amalgamation of interests of exes who got her into it.
You're attractive and you know it. You are the prize.

dizzy_dizzle · 2019-12-25T09:25:08+00:00

Guessing you are very handsome

Siyuen_Tea · 2019-12-25T16:15:42+00:00

It's because your being good not nice. A nice guy collapses under shit tests. They tell you right there " not sure if your a sweetheart or an asshole " . If a beta was watching you, he'd call you an asshole for not taking her seriously. People say don't compliment because most betas think compliments get the girl. They don't, passing the shit tests do. When she starts working to win you over is when you start complimenting her. The compliment should be a reward, not a gift.

bbqyak · 2019-12-24T22:31:55+00:00

You look like a fuccboi. I don't mean that in a bad way - you look like a guy that gets pussy. So even when you say beta shit that would turn girls off it comes across as playerish.

Edit: should also say you have the swagger of somebody who gets laid. It's not just about looks.

I think Shawn Mendes is a good example of this. Looks and at times acts like a sweet wholesome dude, but at the same time there's something about him you know he's not pure. That shit drives girls crazy.

Truedemocracy5 · 2019-12-24T21:02:25+00:00

You fucking these girls? These relationships lasting more than 1-2 months? (When love bombing turns into this guy is pathetic)

And if you’re being sexual then it likely offsets most of it. Good guys and nice guys often don’t know how to escalate and that’s what kills them

nowboarding · 2019-12-24T22:08:46+00:00

I’m curious what your texting looks like in this way. Would you mind posting some samples?

XT3M3 · 2019-12-24T23:28:58+00:00

this. you just need to balance your sweetness and asshole ness. the problem here is that too many people are so far on 1 end of the spectrum and ignore the other side. most of the people here make getting girls harder than it needs to be because of this lack of balance.

E9er · 2019-12-25T02:50:39+00:00

if it works why fuck with it. it’s a means to an end goal. and you’re still getting there regardless of your path so fuck it! i’m kinda the same but different. i start neutral then work the compliments then move on to the asshole. then the ordering around mixed with kino. so it’s like they’re like what’s going on??? they end up saying i’m “mean” but i tell them get me a drink and open it for me and they’re happy to oblige! but i flip the script with random gestures like a candy here a nice note there a comforting kino or w.e while continuing the asshole ordering around. they just smile when they say i’m mean then it snowballs to more girls so the point is if it’s working you do you boi!

chazthundergut · 2019-12-25T05:49:06+00:00

If it's working for you keep it up.

But can you see how the average frustrated guy should avoid texting a bunch of emojis and showing girls with compliments?

AA7 · 2019-12-25T12:12:57+00:00

I thought I was the only one this shit worked for.

legend503 · 2019-12-25T13:03:52+00:00

Many people here are very angry at women for various reasons. And since you can be a dick and still get girls that's much more easy when you feel like that.

I also have your style and worked wonders for me this summer. Even though I'd like to improve for all various scenarios

SwoleyMoleyFrijoley · 2019-12-25T14:31:09+00:00

Good guy game works as well as bad guy game if you're attractive. It's "nice guy" game that pisses women off and leaves men with their dick in their hands.

It can turn a woman on just as much to say "You look so beautiful and sexy right now I want to rip your clothes off" as it would to be dominant as fuck and just get to the fucking.

It's when you buy her flowers for a friend and expect a beej in return without saying it, then being a bitch when you don't get it that you're being a nice guy.

Rule 1:Be attractive Rule 2: Don't be unattractive

2019-12-25T14:35:14+00:00

It's because of your good looks i presume?

SwoleyMoleyFrijoley · 2019-12-25T14:37:36+00:00

Good guy with a strong pimp hand will do just as well as a Dark Triad bad boy, and less chance of running into Lucifer's daughter, too. It's really what should be the goal of TRP

monsieurhire2 · 2019-12-25T17:14:20+00:00

You are qualifying yourself as an LTR material that they want to lock down, maybe. You are relatively high SMV and you have prospects, so when you send the comfort signals, they think they can LTR you, and then they will hook up with you thinking it will lead to something.

rockyp32 · 2019-12-25T18:29:39+00:00

When u optimize ur masculinity ur not gonna be a douchebag cause if ur actually embracing ur masculinity your gonna be confident but also happy not an whey serial killer. Look at the natural chads I remember seeing this one pornstar dude and he did the same shit but u can tell it was just his natural way but the woman loved it. Us men are supposed to think there eyes and hair are beautiful problem happens when u say that in hope of there response instead of just speaking your mind

IXseed · 2019-12-25T19:05:37+00:00

I've been listening to some Patrice O'Neal (RIP) over the last few days and he has a friend like you. He's all lovey dovey, gives compliments and sounds like a nice guy.

He also is living with a wife, a gf, and goes out getting strange when he wants to.

The thing about this game is whatever "strategy" you choose you gotta be RIGHTEOUS with it. The reason why compliments don't work for a lot of dudes is the same reason why being "an asshole" doesn't....they don't feel it in their soul.

Regardless of the compliments and all that shit, your frame is what matters. If you tell her you like her hair but it's coming from a position of power where you don't expect shit in return, it hits different then if it were to come from a position of neediness where you're hoping to "win her over"

The best level of game is when you're no longer "gaming" and it just comes off naturally. When you DGAF and hold frame, amazing things happen. The rules of TRP when it comes to women are to help you get there.

gitpullhoes · 2019-12-25T19:12:04+00:00

jajaja

JedYorks · 2019-12-24T21:12:04+00:00

This redpill shit only works if you’re attractive, do the same thing as a ugly male and it’s game over

juliank47 · 2019-12-25T02:44:54+00:00

You are for sure not just a regular dude that doesn’t lift or look after themself. I am in the top 1% of males in terms of looks and physique and I can testify that girls will throw themselves at you regardless of how much of an asshole (or extremely nice in your case) you are. Looking good makes one hell of a difference.

luccisanolean · 2019-12-24T21:25:38+00:00

Do u practice nofap?

Youngyoda89 · 2019-12-24T20:24:45+00:00

You sound really fucking gay and beta. You could be handsome enough for it to work.

Title	Why does my good guy game work so well?
Author	latinmax68
Upvotes	171
Comments	119
Date	24 December 2019 08:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/302890
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ef6afp/why_does_my_good_guy_game_work_so_well/