I am not far into the MRP journey yet. I have read and continue to reread all the required side bar contents, been doing so over the past 9 months trying to get momentum going. I own the fact that it has not yet. But there is one big issue I cannot find much information on and really am stuck on:

My wife does not have a low sex drive. Her sex drive is huge and she keeps blaming me and getting angry formy lack of sex drive. I know:

  1. I ought to have even angry sex just to calm her down.

  2. "Everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power." (Oscar Wilde)

  3. not fucking her (enough) is breaking the red pill rules.

Yet with everything that has happened and is happening, my sex drive is simply not there anymore. I originally married her in part because I was with a frigid woman before, but after over 2 years of misery it simply died out on my side, while I am still very much trying to save this marriage.

Her sex drive though... The day can have been a horrible s**tshow on every level, but even if she was throwing the most demeaning insults at me right before bed, she still expects sex right then and there.

I have tried purposefully intoxicating and the dissociation does boost my sex drive, but that obviously is not a solution and I don't know what that experiment is supposed to tell me.

Any insights would be most welcome.

Disclaimer: I have read the side bar, looked for similar posts and tried to follow policy guidelines with this post. Most things MRP says about me is true and I readily admit I need to work on myself / own my shit. I have tried to do so for the past 9 months, which I know is only beginning and I will continue to stumble over myself until some momentum on my side is reached.