Struggle Love is NOT Normal

bringtwizzlers · 2020-10-25T21:56:41+00:00

I don’t want someone who treats everyone badly, but treats me well. I don’t want someone who “will change for me.” I don’t want someone who has no problem hurting and using the women who came before me. I want someone who has always been a good person. And this is what society should glorify, nothing else.

veruscka · 2020-10-25T18:14:27+00:00

This conditioning that women have to suffer for love starts early. Disney princesses anyone?

Betty_Bottle · 2020-10-25T21:17:01+00:00

Tried to explain this to someone a few weeks ago. I was met with "well relationships are not supposed to be easy either"

I blocked them not long after this for different reasons.

ComprehensiveCatch46 · 2020-10-25T21:33:54+00:00

I treat myself with kindness and respect so I expect the same from others especially in a relationship. Being miserable & unhappy with someone else makes no sense to me.

LeeBees1105 · 2020-10-26T01:28:43+00:00

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2020-10-25T21:46:09+00:00

Relationships are supposed to be mostly easy. Save the struggle for conquering new goals at the gym or in the workplace. 💪😁

2020-10-26T04:09:19+00:00

Do not even have a bad night of sleep because of a man and his behaviors.

Peaceful is so blissful.

HornetKick · 2020-10-26T05:12:46+00:00

Yep. I've heard people say you have to fight to be in a relationship or fight to keep it (whatever) and I was always surprised by the use of the word fight to explain love/relationship. That seems to be a paradox, I'd say.

daisy_0720 · 2020-10-26T11:21:42+00:00

The only acceptable 'struggle love' is when you adopt a dog or a cat from a shelter and have to work over months to earn their trust and love.

Save your struggle love for pets, not men.

ms_monquis · 2020-10-26T13:51:43+00:00

I think “relationships are work” started from a good place. Giving up on a marriage isn’t good when it can be fixed. The problem is that thats been warped to “you can’t give up ever because relationships are work.”

They are but you shouldn’t be fighting fires 24/7/365.

321tina321 · 2020-10-25T22:56:22+00:00

Why would you bother for 10 seconds in a relationship that makes you feel miserable?

washopingyoudask · 2020-10-26T01:21:12+00:00

Well shit

wayward_woman · 2020-10-26T05:41:27+00:00

God I wish someone would've told me this when I was younger.

Mawi331 · 2020-10-26T12:50:39+00:00

Former therapist told me her friend will stay with a man only until he makes her cry more than 3 times total. If he makes her cry more than that she is gone, no matter what or where in the relationship. It shocked me back than as I was with an abusive narc who made me feel crazy basically everyday and who I let trample all over my life. But it’s so true. No matter what it’s not worth it, because true healthy relationships do not make you feel like this! They feel light, nurturing and stable and make you feel good. Society really had us believing we should be fighting for a mans love 🤡 little girls need to be taught these lessons from the beginning on

Title	Struggle Love is NOT Normal
Author	InevitableHulk
Upvotes	1887
Comments	30
Date	October 25, 2020 6:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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