I notice a lot of new comers here which is great. When I first found this place it changed my life.

I want to address in more detail some things that cost me a lot of wasted time, energy and money.

The first things you'll see around here to get started on the path to self improvement are usually; Lift and Sort out your Wardrobe.

Solid advice, do not ignore.

Here's some additional practical advice to give some detail to those and help you avoid my mistakes.

Diet

Diet is the foundation of lifting. A clean diet gives you the physical energy to actually put in your workout and the mental clarity to stay disciplined.

This is step 1. You need to sort out your diet first. It lays the groundwork for everything else.

Keep it simple at first, more protein, more veg, less processed carbs, no sugar or junk food. Try not to drink calories.

Lifting

Once your diet is nailed down, get yourself a plan for lifting. Don't do what I did and run to the nearest gym thinking you can deadlift like the others. You can't.

You've been misusing your body and it takes time to adjust. Start out easy, get a plan together for the movements you need, get the form right first, then start adding weights.

Hire a reputable Personal Trainer for an hour to show you the ropes if you need to.

Can't afford a gym? Scared of the big dogs looking at you? Fine.

Go buy a pull up bar and dumb bell set/kettlebell. Outlay is less than 100 bucks. But again, learn to use them properly. They are tools. Use them right.

Clothes

This is where I went wrong. I rushed out and dropped a load of cash on fancy clothes that fit me well.

Three months later they were all too big for me and had to be replaced.

Take your time with this, realise that you will not be the same body shape in three months, even in six months if your diet and lifting are on point.

Don't be like me. Realize this is a long journey, one step at a time.

I dropped down 2-3 sizes in everything, re-buying clothes six months later cost me a fortune.

While slimming down or bulking up keep to cheap items, basic T -shirts, shirts etc.

Never stop. Lift and eat right constantly and you will have a body that won't let you down and that will do half the work of attraction for you. The confidence boost from being in shape is enormous, it's not just physical, your attitude will change and women will pick up on that. Never stop.