Fucked a girl with a bf. Now she wants to leave him to be with me

Work_In_Progress92 · 2017-12-31T05:16:48+00:00

Can't turn a ho into a housewife.

imboredofitall · 2017-12-31T05:30:53+00:00

I’ve been there, what will happen is you’ll always doubt her and know what she is capable of. You will end up either leaving her, which will honestly confuse and anger her or you’ll end up with a girl you’re afraid will cheat on you. Hypergamy is a thing.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-12-31T04:25:20+00:00

Retract your attention until it's clear you two are gonna meet up to finish what u started. While she's getting caressed, kissed, fucked, fed, taken care of by her boyfriend, you're on the internet asking a bunch of strangers for advice. Stop talking to her. Until u fuck her, stop engaging so much with her, stop talking to her. If she's not dtf, all she's doing is stringing u along and keeping u in orbit. She wouldn't fuck you but she will tell u how when she's fucking her boyfriend she thinks about you.

She's seriously slapping u in your face. It's like she's cucking you and you're not even her boyfriend.

Whisper · 2017-12-31T06:34:59+00:00

If she cheated with you, she'll cheat on you.

360_no_scope_upvote · 2017-12-31T04:19:22+00:00

You really didn't need to make a story out of this. Don't date a hoe, and you guys haven't even fucked and she's trying to get commitment. C'mon bro you're hamstering yourself.

smirk_addict · 2017-12-31T06:15:17+00:00

You should never take a woman seriously who does “everything” but PIV. Women like that can rationalize (hamster) anything as to not feel guilty and often use sex as a weapon. So this girl won’t let you fuck her until she can branch swing. Also, so she can feel like she didn’t cheat on her boyfriend. But neither one of these things stop her from playing with your dick.
Slowly fade until she’ll be willing to sleep with you just to have your attention. Don’t even let her think a LTR is possible. Never hint towards any of the sort and just keep living the Dream.

GuestsGetGreens · 2017-12-31T05:25:08+00:00

Read the sidebar. This woman is a branch swinger. She’ll go from dude to dude, relationship to relationship. The fact that you wrote this post means you are considering it. It also seems like she is your only sexual option, which means you are not practicing abundance mentality and she is your oneitis.

imdar3ald3al · 2017-12-31T06:08:57+00:00

Read the title only. If she cheats with you she will cheat on you. Simple as that.

I'd just keep chilling, escalating, and you'll eventually tap it.

max_peenor · 2017-12-31T16:03:08+00:00

Personally, I hav no taste for this sort of drama, but if you want your dick her in, it seems like a done deal. Here is the best part: the clock will already be ticking on when she goes away. The only thing you need to do is not fall stupid for her. When she needs a new cock, just wish her well on the way out your door. Ultimately, what you do matters, not her.

she doesn't seem to want that.

You are the gatekeeper of commitment. Don't negotiate with terrorists over this shit. She might not want to wallow in the temporary nature of the relationship, but it's pretty clear that is how she operates any way. JUST DONT PUSH ALL YOUR CHIPS INTO THE PILE. That's now men lose everything.

themag1cbean · 2017-12-31T08:54:14+00:00

I would first start from here on recording any thing she says related to her wanting to, or already has fucked you. That way if you ignore the fundamental rule of the TRP sub, she turns out to be psycho, accuses you of rape because the situation ended up like she was feeling used and now has zero boyfriends (unless you get serious with this hoe), you are covered. I will tell you this, going into a relationship with her will most likely end in failure. It’s up to you if you want to learn from it or play the victim card.

mcr00sterdota · 2017-12-31T08:41:42+00:00

A relationship that started with cheating will end with cheating.

MattyAnon · 2017-12-31T15:02:09+00:00

I told her that i wasn't ready for a relationship and she said it's ok that we will "see where it goes."

Fair.... although be warned: when you say "don't want a relationship", girls will sometimes hear "ok, so it's hanging out and sex and maybe a LTR later", and will be in self imposed denial about you fucking other women. Not entirely your problem, but she probably hasn't understood/accepted that you mean "non exclusive".

she won't hesitate to do it again with someone else

Damned straight. So don't commit to her.

She wants to branch swing. Sounds fine, just don't commit or expect her to be faithful.

I guess my question is, how should i approach this without making it a bigger deal than it needs to be? I'd like to keep her as a plate but she doesn't seem to want that.

Looks like she's looking to get out of her current rl, but doesn't want to be alone. You could help her through this difficult time. With your dick.

RPShitlord · 2017-12-31T14:04:27+00:00

You should tell her not to break up with her boyfriend. You'll provide the sex, the boyfriend everything else. If she dumps the boyfriend, everything else will fall on you. And that's when she'll find someone else for sex again. Don't get caught in the cycle.

Kommanderdude · 2017-12-31T14:29:31+00:00

First post nailed it.

BusterVadge · 2017-12-31T14:54:40+00:00

Tell her that you're guilty over the whole boyfriend thing (even though you're not). That gives you an easy way out. Take it. This girl is looking to swing branches.

INTJokes · 2017-12-31T21:23:13+00:00

Tell her to stay with her bf and keep fucking her. When you impregnate her, make her bf take care of the child. Congrats on spreading your superior genes.

AlmightyFiNeSseN · 2017-12-31T21:38:28+00:00

If you’re not fucking her than your just a orbiter, ghost her completely. This is a recipe for disaster in the making.

Boovs4life · 2017-12-31T22:01:50+00:00

There isn't enough information in this text for me/us to give you a straight answer; please provide more information. Have you had sex with her yet? Is her boyfriend wealthy or broke? How do you compare to her boyfriend? What does she know about you?

If you did not have sex with her yet then you are simply a prospect for her. Assume she messages the same shit to 10 other guys. She could be looking for an easy break-up; and a man to take her and transition her into a better position.

[deleted] · 2017-12-31T05:45:30+00:00

all she can think about is me, even when she's having sex with him

If there is a better feeling on earth than this, god strike me down now

friendlysociopathic · 2017-12-31T11:01:59+00:00

I know this is a very obvious red flag and i know i should run as soon as she asked to be with me but i guess i need a RP answer.

The RP answer is that you should trust your own point of view, because it's extremely beta to require other men to agree with your gut instinct for you to act on it.

wolframheart90 · 2017-12-31T12:11:14+00:00

Def don't get into a relationship with this one. A red flag is a red flag. I've seen to many stories on here or real life dealing with the same issue. What usually happens the girl leaves her bf for you to only have later her pulling her bullshit again and fucking you over. Either with her being with other dudes or one in particular. DO NOT GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER. Don't let your emotions and feelings for her cloud the obvious decision you know to make, Dorm let pussy hypnotize you

Velebit · 2018-01-01T04:02:06+00:00

fuck her and than hold on to her

casemodsalt · 2018-01-01T21:55:51+00:00

Lie to her to get sex. They lie to get money and other things. Don't feel so bad about it

Stransky316 · 2017-12-31T05:47:27+00:00

I'm amazed people believe this crap.

iAMTinman_Dealwithit · 2017-12-31T09:50:53+00:00

GTFO. Spin this plate, but don't settle. She's giving you some dreamy line she'll give to another guy in a year. YOU have the power here. If she doesn't wanna be a plate - tough luck. Beggars can't be choosers.

DaftOdyssey · 2017-12-31T10:10:21+00:00

Just look at her actions. If she did that with the dude, she would probably do it to you and swing to another guy. That simple. She's nothing more than a side piece in regards to a relationship.

Title	Fucked a girl with a bf. Now she wants to leave him to be with me
Author	Boovs4life
Upvotes	46
Comments	51
Date	December 31, 2017 4:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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