Men who are “jealous” of abusers give me the creeps

ahsiemkcip · 2020-12-10T23:31:57+00:00

Absolutely, all they’re really saying is “I wish I was as good at manipulating women as they are” phrased differently.

misty-muse · 2020-12-10T23:34:41+00:00

They don’t care if we suffer as long as they get what they want.

qwaliY · 2020-12-10T23:32:44+00:00

I feel likes it's maybe an "I'm shit but they're shittier so what's the problem" mentality?

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-11T02:56:40+00:00

They want to be the men who get to abuse women. That's what it is. That's why it creeps you out, your subconscious gets it but it's such a horrible reality your conscious mind doesn't want to accept it.

honeybeeroll · 2020-12-11T00:26:18+00:00

For me, this creeps me out because they have zero understanding of how abusers work, and are jealous of these disgusting people. Kinda sounds like if they were charming like abusers are, they'd use this charm to manipulate

Novemberinthechair · 2020-12-11T02:16:58+00:00

I remember a guy saying this and it unsettled me. "I am such a nice guy but no women gives me attentions. But abusers have girlfriends i am so jealous." So he is saying he is actually not a decent human being and he is being nice ti get something ( a relationship or sex). And he is admitting his ideal relationship would be where he does the bare minimum and can get away with hurting and taking advantage of a woman just like those abusers he envys.

These guys are nice guy creepy. They have a friendly, nice demeanour outside but they are very fake and cover their cruel nature with their fake nice guy demeanour. That's why its so creepy because these people who hide behind a mask and we could trust them without knowing about their cruel nature. It's kind of like how some people have a phobia of a clown. One of the reason people fear clown is because they have this mask and fake painted smile but we never know their intentions and what they are thinking/hiding behind that mask.

tossed_salad100 · 2020-12-11T05:50:43+00:00

This goes hand in hand with “BUT YOU DID IT WITH HIM” for abusive sexual acts or those you’re not personally comfortable with. NEVER tel a guy your sexual history.

Pasdepromesses · 2020-12-11T06:51:14+00:00

It’s because this statement dehumanises the woman in the scenario. She’s only seen as a goal, a thing to be used.

‘How is it that an abuser is able to get the toy and I am not? He gets the bangmaid treatment even though he breaks ‘it’ once in a while. It’s not fair to me’.

See how they think an abuser having a girlfriend is not fair to them instead of focussing on this poor woman?

They don’t care about actually liking a woman, falling in love with someone, having a healthy and equal and happy relationship. They want ‘a’ girlfriend and who she is and how she feels doesn’t matter to them.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-12-11T05:02:05+00:00

They want to be rapists/manipulators but and are jealous they cant be. It's fucked up.

asteria2002 · 2020-12-11T07:47:24+00:00

Don't you know? Men really don't care about how they treat women as long as they can have her. They don't want a partner, they want a bangmaid and they are jealous how they can't get a women to be a sex toy and maid by being nice. This is why I will never be with in a relationship. Men are not worth it.

JiltedGroupie · 2020-12-11T08:37:11+00:00

Yes absolutely. It would be like being jealous of someone having slaves. Wanting to free them is the appropriate feeling in that scenario... not wanting to have them.

Wildestrose1988 · 2020-12-11T07:37:33+00:00

Ted Bundy got all the babes

myousername · 2020-12-11T18:10:35+00:00

I realized a while back that when incels complain "feeemales only want asshole bad boy Chads"

They aren't jealous of the fact that the other guy is more good looking, or the fact that he has been with more women.

He's jealous that he isn't good looking enough to be able to treat women like crap and still get away with it.

They are resentful that if they want to attract women, they have to adopt a mating strategy that involves treating women well. They resent having to play the role of the "nice" guy. In their eyes, being an attractive man grants you the privilege of treating women badly without having to face any real consequences.

This is why they get angry when we say "well maybe you would attract more women if you were nicer to them and had a better attitude" because 1) they don't think it will work because "genetics" and 2) they don't want to have to treat women with kindness.

Being nice to women is seen as a chore to them at best, or emasculating at worst.

Wildestrose1988 · 2020-12-11T07:37:57+00:00

Damn that's an amazing point actually.

gothicctemptress · 2020-12-11T12:51:31+00:00

Absolutely: the jealousy comes from watching other manipulators succeed where they failed.

Title	Men who are “jealous” of abusers give me the creeps
Author	aquacitrine
Upvotes	295
Comments	19
Date	December 10, 2020 9:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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