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Living with my girl for a month, bad idea or no?

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Desadarius
April 26, 2020
62 upvotes
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Long story short, girl is proposing a little vacation for us that would be a month long, during which we would be living together

Now I know you should generally never cohabitate with an LTR.

However this would only be a month long, and could be a good opportunity to see if she would be a pain to live with, without committing to a contract.

Anyone have any experience or advice on the matter?


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Title Living with my girl for a month, bad idea or no?
Author Desadarius
Upvotes 62
Comments 69
Date 26 April 2020 04:49 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/656853
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/g8hoyy/living_with_my_girl_for_a_month_bad_idea_or_no/
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[–]Annapolis_Duck260 points261 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lol go have fun and stop overthinking this dude.

[–]MrAnderzon14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

What he said.

[–]SIR_SKINNYPENIS6991 points92 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a great and rare opportunity to try before you buy and then being able to slip back into living alone with ease at the end of the experiment before ruminating on what to do next.

A month is a bit long but fuck it, just go for it and have fun bro life is about trying things out, sometimes you've got to just put yourself out there and take risks to learn and grow and live a little

[–]drewaki157 points158 points  (11 children) | Copy

This sub is so fucking funny, not everything needs to be examined at a microscopic level. This isn’t scripture, if you want to go then go, if you don’t then don’t what the hell

[–]PinacoladaSauce51 points52 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is an underrated response. Everyone expects this sub to tell them how to live their life down to what they say. Like fucking robots.

I wonder how many of the users here actually have genuine confidence and self belief or if they’re just stuck in a script TRP gives them

[–]Big_Homie_Mozi4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Say it louder for the psycho fucks in the back holy. Restored a little faith in TRP

[–]Desadarius1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I agree, I just wanna get some other opinions so I can know what I’m getting into

[–]verac75734 points35 points  (5 children) | Copy

"my gf farted in her apartment on may 5th, 2016. Would someone please write me a 500 word thesis on how this was disrespect and i should hard next her."

[–]D4rkr4in7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

Like doing a number two and popping pimples, I have a list of things I just don’t want to do around other people or have them do around me, and farting is on it. I’m not saying letting rip once in a while is bad, but to let it rip in front of another person is outright disrespectful. Farts are nasty. They smell bad and they destroy the indoor air. Why would I want to breathe that in? It’s good to feel relaxed around your partner but being so comfortable with your partner that you stop making any effort to impress them isn’t a good thing. One day, my ex told me that she farted because she wanted to be comfortable in the relationship. She wanted to let rip and not have to feel bad about it. That’s great, but she didn’t understand how uncomfortable it was making me. I just didn’t like it and wasn’t going to feel bad about that. There’s a place for farting and it’s in the bathroom without me present! I sometimes wished we could go back to the start of our relationship when we’d had more mystery, back when she wouldn’t fart on dates and we could just hold onto some of that feeling of newness. Instead, things had become stale thanks to her inability not to hold in her farts around me. I totally think that farting in front of your partner can be a sign that you’re entering a higher level of intimacy, but people aren’t supposed to be gassy all the damn time! It’s natural to pass gas occasionally, but she seemed to have it constantly and I wondered if there was something wrong with her health because of it. Honestly, it was hard to keep the romance going when she was farting all the time. I just felt disgusted and frustrated all the time rather than in love. Also, part of me feared that one day she’d fart during sex. I wouldn’t have been surprised, frankly. I sound really petty here, but I stopped finding her so attractive. Sure, she had always been hot to me, but now things had changed. I used to always want to touch and kiss her, but once she got into her farting phase, I just felt repulsed. I felt like I knew TMI about her nasty toilet habits and they were changing my perception of her. I just didn’t want to get up close and personal with her anymore. Farting is a total deal breaker for me and a sign of clear disrespect and therefore, you should hard next her.

[–]PaulWallThrowed-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lmfao you sound like a woman.

[–]D4rkr4in0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

that's kinda impressive, the original author was indeed a woman

[–]second-last-mohican0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dropping a deuce in front of me definitely kills attraction, like close the door atleast

[–]Desadarius-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol

[–]downvotesanimals2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Autists claiming to be RP as far as the eye can see...

[–]jaznex-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

beta

edit: lol it was sarcasm

[–]jababa_123 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

One month will :

Give you the chance to see how she is like when you live together and vice versa.

Expect her wanting more after it ends though.

[–]z2a1-920 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy

yes we approve, permission granted

[–]Desadarius0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Not asking for permission, just lookin for advice

[–]BigTreats12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

that’s the joke

[–]Acromion9452 points53 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah bro just fuck the hell out of her for a month and then go back to your normal lifestyle

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper34 points35 points  (17 children) | Copy

Now I know you should generally never cohabitate with an LTR.

Stop listening to retards. I've been living with one of my LTRs for six fucking years.

[–]mrmaika104 points5 points  (8 children) | Copy

Ooh I’d like to hear more if you don’t mind

[–]1DonaldBaelish24 points25 points  (3 children) | Copy

The thing is he is experienced and knows how to manage his bitches.

A lot of people fall into traps when cohabitating. They start talking too much when not knowing what to say. They start getting comfortable. They forget about how alone time is important and distance is needed throughout the day, for example go read a book in a different room for a couple of hours. They fail one too many shit tests.

Cohabitating is not for the inexperienced. While he really is overthinking stuff, OP should prepare himself for the possible mistakes that can happen in his upcoming adventure.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

Spot on. Especially that bit about mistakes. People, realize that you are going to make mistakes.

Go ahead.

The glorious advantage of being male is that you get to leave your mistakes behind. Next your mistakes. Nexting isn't punishment. It's a decision that your time would be better invested in the next girl than in this one.

[–]violetmonstermunch-4 points-3 points  (1 child) | Copy

But doesn't Rollo have an iron rule that says to not live with a girl we don't intend to marry in the next 6 months ?

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have different advice... I don't recommend marrying at all. It gets you nothing you didn't have already, while greatly diminishing your power to kick her to the curb should things go wrong.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

I have two live-in girlfriends (supplemented with the occasional side piece when it's not pandemic time), "FunSize" (because she's built on the scale of a pixie) and "FanGirl" (because I met her when she wrote fanmail to the "Whisper" account).

[–]unn4med4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahaha Whisper getting pussy off reddit?

[–]443610662 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Turns out you were living close to Each other?

[–]xxx69harambe69xxx0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

jesus

[–]Protocol_Apollo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How does one know when they are ready to break the cohabitation rule?

What actions do the experienced take that differs from the inexperienced?

[–]treehauz10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep your game on bro! Its gonna be a good test for your skills. Frame is the key. Have fun!

[–]lolomotif123 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep her in your frame and take your daily red pills. This is a good opportunity to also vet her and see if she is actually LTR worthy. Just enjoy it and work on your sport fucking.

[–]DerpJungler3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Make sure you give her a good fuck every night and you will be fine.

[–]Pimpcool4200 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No reason not to, you just have to have to be able to handle lost attraction if it happens.

I had a tourist girl who came back to my city several times and we ended up taking multi-day trips together; later I stayed at her place in her city to save on hotel costs. Undoubtedly there's less attraction now than there was when we met the first few times staying at our respective places, but no regrets (live in the moment, focus on now, and if you lose some attraction layer who cares?)

[–]shouldergirdle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, LTR is making her move up to "wife" status. Be careful. Here is how it works:

1) Temporary living arrangement

2) She is on best behavior, cooking, cleaning, pleasant, fucking

3) Joint bank account, you know, for rent, utilities, groceries etc. She actually pays her half

4) Get a pet together

5) One month is up, everything is so great may as well just stay in the apartment together and sign a 1 yr lease

6) She gets pregnant

7) Living together, banking together, pet, baby on the way...may as well get married

8) Married

9) Sex declines, bitchy, she stop paying into the joint account, you are picking up the dog's shit, take out food, you are doing the dishes.

You are not ready for this. This is her life's mission. She has been scheming and preparing her whole life for this. You are not ready. Don't do it!

[–]niceguylife0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's good you're aware of the cohabitation dangers. This is a no brainer in my mind. A test run without the commitment. If you see yourself slipping or her getting controlling, it's a lesson and you'll be better at the end of it!

[–]__TheDon__0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good idea to test the waters in regards to future cohabitation

[–]beardestbird0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good test run. Enjoy

[–]443610660 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good learning experience dude! Fucking do it.

She loses attraction? Drop her.

[–]BigTreats0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you’re letting microscopic details get in the way of life experiences. You obviously want to

[–]The-Real-Hulk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Anybody that thinks living with her for one month somehow reflects what it's going to be like living with her permanently has never lived with a woman before...

[–]idevastate0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bro what. Go. This sub is a little autistic sometimes.

[–]Krebota-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why the fuck should you never cohabitate with an LTR? Who told you that?

[–]goblinboglin-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go do it lol.

Doesn't matter what some pRoS say.

Many have done it and are happy. Many have done it and it fucked all up.

You only hear about the fuck-ups.

[–]TheDopestPope-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

go do it, and if it sucks then leave. you aren't going to be held hostage (probably)

[–]L0nerizm-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nope not allowed! Rule 834 in Red Pill. Otherwise you will be arrested by TRP cops.

[–]Lateralanouncer-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do what you want to do. If your faking it. She will figure that out. If your a natural all good and do what you want.

[–]nexther-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck it. You know you want to... don’t let some internet losers tell you otherwise. This is about you...

[–]Desadarius-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You right

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[–]nexther-1 points0 points  (8 children) | Copy

Oooo look someone is bluepilled.

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[–]nexther0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Why not 3 bitches? are you gay?

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[–]nexther-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

hmm I have two girls who stay at my place. We all sleep in the same bed usually however there is another bed in case we fall out which happened once last year for reasons I best keep to myself

I have some plates too

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[–]nexther0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ooo really? like 3 at time instead of 2? lucky guy

btw I haven’t announced to them i’m gay yet

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[–]nexther-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

probably

[–]cfbovernfl-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"only be a month long" mate that's quite a long time, much more than a weekend getaway. You also shouldn't be vacationing anywhere other than your home during the quarantine.

[–]fakeaccount687-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

A month? That's tricky. Idk if that's long enough to cause the same issues that cohabitation does.

Loss of attraction, resentment



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