I found out this purely by accident when he screenshotted to me a clip from our text convo. It had my last name on It. Now, we were exclusive and supposedly serious and in a relationship (all at his initiative and insjstence)

I said "Why do you have my last name. Makes me seem like a business contact or customer. Not your gf. "

He was immedistely defensive. After clever questioning on my part, and letting him ramble defensively.....there were more than a few women in his contact list with my name, that he can't remember if he dated or not. And that he keeps the contact info all women he dates and exes...but that's ok because he keeps the contact of anybody he meets because he is in sales. He refused to answer if he contacted these former women because "I'm the only one who is thinking that." Classic neither affirm not deny lol. Then told me he would not delete any contacts, including mine lol.

Then when I tried to discuss whether it's appropriste, generally, to have contact with exes in a relationship, his simple mind could not even process an abstract discussoon, and just kept going back to how I didn't trust him, and how I was the only one thinking he had contact with exes, etc. But he would never 1) say what his opinion was on contacting exes in a relationship 2) or deny that he did. Lol.

Then he was all butthurt and said it was an "enormous res flag" that him having my last name on his contact could lead to all this! And that every time things are going well, I start an argument! That this came out of thin air! And He can't deal with me being like this!

Lol. He just isn't very smart. What I did was take a gut instinct and run with it. And I was fucking right. When I saw my last name, I knew there were other women with my first name. I also knew that this guy had dated A LOT and at age 43 his longest relationship was 4 yrs. It's not unreasonable to conclude that if he keeps the contact info of all women he dates and exes....then he contacts them. Probably in the nauseating fuckboy way we detest.

He just mad because he got had. By me. Idiot knows what I do for a living. Eliciting evidence and following clues is part of my job. Moron can't handle it.

In terms of leveling up, practice your diva skills and GO ON THE OFFENSIVE. Boldly question and put them in the defensive if something doesn't feel right to you. Better the trash take itself out sooner than later.