So my boyfriend(now fiancé) and I have been together for 5 years. He’s great, and I love him. We had discussed getting married before a little bit and both said we wanted to, but didn’t really say when.

Both our families were away for thanksgiving so we decided to take a little vacation, we went to sequoia national park and I thought that it would be the perfect place to propose. I already bought him a really nice watch (he wears one but it’s sort of cheap), and when we were in this beautiful little clearing with the huge trees and no one was around I popped the question, got down on one knee and all.

He was really surprised and didn’t exactly react the way I expected, he seemed sort of annoyed and upset but eventually said yes. On the drive home he said that it made him upset that I would just propose and that it was “a mans part of a marriage” and “something he was looking forward to his whole life”. So now I feel really awful because I thought it would be really sweet if we reversed the roles because he’s always doing romantic things for me.

Anyway he was sort of cold when we got home, not outwardly aggressive but now I’m just sitting here worried if I did something horribly wrong.

AITA?

Edit: Jesus I didn’t expect this many comments. I see a bunch of people talking about how he lost his chance when he waited 5 years, but I’m only 27 and he’s 28, so we were in college and grad school for much of the relationship. He was getting his PhD and was busy and I got my masters and started my job and he was still in school. We had this conversation maybe 4 months ago? So it’s not like he’s had years.

I’m planning on talking to him about it when he wakes up. But I don’t really appreciate the “your marriage is doomed” comments

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