FDS has recently gained a lot of attention on Reddit, and based on reading what some people write about us online, here are several myths running around Reddit about FDS women:

FDS women are similar to incels because of our extreme ideology of hating men. The truth? We hate shitty men and we will use this subreddit as a platform for calling out their bad behavior so other women know what to avoid. However, we also make space in our lives for: 1) good male friends who respect women and appreciate our friendship, and 2) a loving boyfriend/husband who is serious about us and cares about us a lot. We don't think that men are only good for their money. We look for great partners who are caring, sweet, intelligent, honest, loyal, and loving! These qualities are very important. However, another quality that we also look for is a man who is generous towards us and it's non-negotiable. Just because we care about a man's generosity and see it as one of the many measures one can have in determining a man's seriousness about you, doesn't mean that it's the only thing we care about.

FDS women must be ugly because only ugly women need dating strategies; all you need to do is to look hot. The truth? Although women do receive a lot of attention from men, the majority of them are from those who only want us for sex, so our main objective is filtering out men who aren't looking for a relationship with us. Additionally, while looks do matter, in order to get a man to commit to you, you need to act like a high value woman so that he will cherish you. The tips we share here on how to act like a high value woman work; the overarching principles will get a man to treat you like you are the love of his life.

FDS women are mentally deranged. The truth? How we appear online is vastly different from how we are in person. We don't talk as bluntly as we do online. Online, we have less filter and our thoughts are expressed in a way where we simply do not give a fuck. Our thoughts are crystal clear and we don't have to worry about using several social filters like we do in real life to seem more diplomatic and socially acceptable.

Many try to paint /r/FemaleDatingStrategy as some sort of "crazy" new group of man-haters who seek to manipulate men, but the majority of our members aren't like that at all (a few of us are a bit more roguish than the rest though, including yours truly 😉). Also, unlike incels and MGTOWs, we don't invade their spaces like they do ours. We don't spout toxic insults and verbally abuse and harass them. They're the toxic ones, not us.

In the end, we like good men, we have standards, and we're your everyday women. All your misconceptions about us will be dissolved if you just take the time to keep an open mind and understand our perspective.