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timetofliptables · 2020-03-25T16:51:54+00:00

When I told my ex I didn’t need him I wanted him (before I fully comprehended how awful he was) he acted like I stabbed him in the back. Just so offended. Like... he was so transactional and abusive that he couldn’t seem to fathom the very notion of it.

SavvyPanther · 2020-03-25T17:15:02+00:00

This is so true. And I think it’s true for all high value people. A man who NEEDS you—to take care of him, to cook and clean and buy present for his mother’s birthday, to be his therapist—is a huge red flag. High value women and high value men are self sufficient and content with themselves as people. They don’t NEED anyone, they want someone who adds to their happiness and joy. This whole “you complete me” stuff is nonsense. If you aren’t complete, you aren’t ready for a serious relationship.

Kahlil Gibran has a nice section on this:

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow." (From The Prophet).

siberiansummer · 2020-03-25T20:05:30+00:00

Exactly. I love how manosphere always says: “She is not yours, it’s just your turn!” Damn right. I’m not your belonging. If you even get a turn, act right if you wanna keep it

curlygirl507 · 2020-03-25T17:25:04+00:00

My dearest wish is for every woman to walk away from men who show the first signs of bad behavior - maybe then they would straighten up. Unfortunately, the vast majority of men are bad, and the vast majority of women just put up with it.

2020-03-25T19:20:37+00:00

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ama_ansk · 2020-03-25T22:09:05+00:00

It was my first post on this sub and I got my first award ever and my first hate messages lmao. Why people feel the need to come and tell internet strangers that they think they’re dumb will always amaze me.

LadyArellano · 2020-03-25T21:42:13+00:00

Truth!! So I can remind myself everyday. I took a screenshot. 😆👏🏽

NWO911 · 2020-03-25T21:39:15+00:00

When women provide for themselves, they don't have to take BS from anyone!

Mermaid-Secrets · 2020-03-26T00:31:04+00:00

This is beautiful. I needed this put into words!

2020-03-26T00:16:14+00:00

This is the truth.

Littlebunny080 · 2020-03-25T17:20:31+00:00

Ok I need that whole text as a first tattoo, I don’t care 😍😭😆

2020-03-26T17:30:04+00:00

I wouldn't even say "carved out". I would say I'm allowing you to make a positive addition!

9penguin · 2020-03-29T22:16:03+00:00

It enrages me that men think being needed is better than being wanted. They act as if we're so picky that we want to want a man, we don't want to depend on them to survive. They act as if not being needed is the end of the world and it's our fault that we don't need them. Then make yourself useful, you useless entitled cock. Why should I need, let alone want someone who can't even take care of himself?

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