Should we give up online dating?

Scwurl · 2020-01-28T13:28:33+00:00

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Fitncurly · 2020-01-28T16:17:34+00:00

I think women today are best off doing it old school and pursuing friendships and hobbies and vetting the men they meet along the way. The more social, the better, as it affords more opportunities. Being with friends would be safer and being in person would clue your intuitions in to whether the guy was “off” or amicable or whatever. Psychos and the socially maladjusted would naturally filter out a bit, whereas online any old loon could be on the other side. Just my $0.02.

Skittleschild02 · 2020-01-28T18:03:12+00:00

I have. As black woman, OLD are a nightmare. We get stuck with bottom of the barrel; fetish hounds, hobosexuals with too many kids, & chauvinist. Too many are looking for harem recruiters and I’m not with the shits anymore.

maserlaser · 2020-01-28T13:51:59+00:00

There is no formula that works 100% for everyone. However, in my case, I do like OLD as one of the avenues to find people. I work in a professional field that is very demanding time-wise and quite insular. As a result, the circle I naturally know can get somewhat narrow. But I live in a bustling city with lots of young people and OLD can be a great way to see people I would never run into otherwise. Sure you have to wade through a lot of crap, but I mostly had ok/good experiences in terms of the people I met up with and it's been cool to meet some really interesting people even if things didn't pan out romantically.

prettyexcitingnews · 2020-01-28T16:17:40+00:00

I know it’s really common nowadays and I was using very actively last year. But... man you can never take OLD seriously. If you are using it with a mindset like oh I’m gonna fine mr. right from this you might go nowhere. But rather just relax and take it lightheartedly without any expectation. Then there might be something else.. cos OLD can be really exhausting as you will talk to numerous people and only a few will really go on a date and so on. Anyways, my 2 cent is if you ever feel tired from it or jaded, it’s really better off of it.

persephones_torch · 2020-01-28T21:20:57+00:00

I'm permanently giving up. I know 100% I will not find the love of my life in there. It's like a catalogue for men to roll the dice on and hopefully 'win a night' with the picture he swiped on.

explosivehabba · 2020-01-28T13:24:32+00:00

Tinder is the way, had many dates, some good dates and now dating one for a year ! I can only recommend

purasangria · 2020-01-28T16:36:33+00:00

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mlca01 · 2020-01-29T12:25:31+00:00

I have. It was just disheartening to wade through the piles of shitty and gross men/men looking to cheat.

I was tired of swiping left 99% of the time. The ones I did swipe right to didn't respond so I felt like OLD was a complete waste of time. I tried a few apps over the past few years and had a handful of mediocre dates to show for it. On top of OLD I also tried volunteering/meetups/speed dating/set ups/cooking classes/joining a new gym/new hobbies and still nothing. It's fine- will make the best of what I got and enjoy my peace & serenity.

Title	Should we give up online dating?
Author	wanderluster369
Upvotes	39
Comments	26
Date	January 28, 2020 1:22 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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