There was a time when I would have accepted a date like this out of boredom....not anymore! Unmatched right away.

harp_unstrung · 2020-07-26T00:48:12+00:00

That rooftop is 100% his house 😂

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-07-26T01:34:23+00:00

Let me take you to a remote location that you’re not familiar with and get you drunk. Hard pass.

painmakesyoustronger · 2020-07-26T01:47:52+00:00

Sounds cheap! And risky (to be in private with a stranger). Good job.

You do your thang, but I’ve finally learned to avoid drinking on dates. I now want to be alert to red flags and not let them get into my pants.

I no longer see a date as an opportunity to have a good time. A successful partnership is so much more than a good time.

Raccoon328 · 2020-07-26T01:40:42+00:00

Same girl 🙏🏽 FDS has saved me so much time, no longer do I “give him a chance” if I feel even the slightest hesitation

2020-07-26T01:07:18+00:00

Well how bout no

Pasdepromesses · 2020-07-26T07:15:58+00:00

Even on the off chance he was actually talking about a rooftop wine bar... see how he sneaked the word 'split' in there?

He could've just said 'we could drink a nice glass of wine' but he goes with 'split a bottle'. He's either expecting her to drink half a bottle of wine and/or pay for it as well. Either scenarios are shit.

warinmymind94 · 2020-07-26T04:37:44+00:00

I'm proud of you for not clapping back or wasting more time. You did the right thing. You deserve a nice planned date at a nice place, he could have looked for a nice Caribbean restaurant!

2020-07-26T05:43:36+00:00

I hate when dudes do this shit and act like its normal And when you point out that it's not normal and its creepy they just defend themselves and still try to convince you.

A real potential HVM is going to be like "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't realize that could be creepy but I understand now. I'd still like to go out with you if you're still interested" then proceed with telling you more public outings in a place you would be more comfortable.

Elegant-Stop · 2020-07-26T08:08:55+00:00

I would have responded with something like “Yeah could be cool. What’s the name of the restaurant?” but blocking was a MUCH better idea. You did good.

Tiny-Energy · 2020-07-26T08:08:11+00:00

Oh boy yikes... I hope he didn’t mean Twin Peaks at night

shedragoness · 2020-07-26T01:39:35+00:00

I'd say is more of a yellow-ish flag. You can have like a sip of wine and that's it. I wouldn't really dismiss this. If he does become insisting in me drinking more I can always leave.

Title	There was a time when I would have accepted a date like this out of boredom....not anymore! Unmatched right away.
Author	aliceindankland
Upvotes	48
Comments	23
Date	July 26, 2020 12:41 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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