the guy who has been texting me for weeks is married and hided it. feelin disgusted, blocked

letsberealforamoment · 2019-12-26T18:44:30+00:00

I would def forward all texts, etc to the wife. These LVMs need to know there are consequences for their behavior. Sure, the wife may not leave him, or whatever, but the LVM will suffer for sure.

riseaboveagain · 2019-12-26T19:05:35+00:00

She was probably lovely when they were first married. Then kids, responsibilities, and the negative mental influence of an unfaithful husband with no respect or integrity dragged her down.

He is a shitbag. You dodged a bullet.

cherieblosum · 2019-12-26T18:33:32+00:00

Do not blame yourself for this. This man is the disgusting one.

I went through the same thing and now I extensively search for someone on social media/Google before dating just to be sure I'm not being played.

fim_de_semana · 2019-12-26T18:40:17+00:00

My dear, it’s not your fault. They are the ones who chose to deceive you and betray their wife.

penelopekitty · 2019-12-26T21:23:00+00:00

Do not text with a man for weeks.

OLD is a tool to meet men you wouldn't normally come across in your day to day activities. Within 48 hours of starting to chat a man should ask you on a proper date. If he doesn't, un-match and move on. Long periods of texting can build up a sense of false intimacy.

I'm much older than you and can tell you it only gets worse. Many of the men online are married. They are looking for some attention through texting and hope to get you to sext and send photos. Some are willing to meet but are hoping to get something on the side.

There are many women married to LVM, in fact most married men are LV. His wife is not better than you and marriage is not the prize. YOU are the prize and don't forget it.

I have a couple of stories about married men I met OLD and IRL that would turn your stomach and might post here sometime. They are out in full force.

If you do meet someone in person ask A LOT of questions about their personal status, ie. have they been married before, how many long term relationships have they had etc.

Men love to talk about themselves, let them do it. Most are not good enough liars to keep their story straight and it is very easy to catch them in an inconsistency. Once you've caught them in an inconsistency make a mental note. Only confront them if you feel 100% safe and then NEVER see or have contact of any kind with them again.

In one of my situations with a married man I did tell the wife. It worked out for me and her. She had been suspicious he was cheating but didn't have proof. I gave her proof and she used the information I gave her in court. He had been cheating on her for almost 30 years, since the birth of their daughter.

CharmingPass · 2019-12-26T20:55:09+00:00

Please forward the texts to the wife. If I were her, I would want to know what kind of POS I'm married to. Wouldn't you want to know if you were her?

xxyourbabygirlxx · 2019-12-26T21:47:52+00:00

Agree with all the other ladies saying you should forward all text conversations to his wife. She deserves to know that her husband is a piece of shit, if she doesn't already.

Annies231 · 2019-12-27T03:43:50+00:00

If you decide to send the texts and emails to her do it as anonymously as possible. As many have said, women tend to place blame on other women as opposed to placing the blame on the man where it belongs. I’m dealing with this situation right now.....my BUSINESS is being drug through the mud on social media because one of my employees slept with a married man and didn’t know he was married. His wife found out where she works and is wreaking havoc by leaving horrible reviews everywhere she can. Ridiculous.

take1990 · 2019-12-27T04:33:49+00:00

I recently went out on a date with a man I met IRL. On the date he tells me he’s still married but “recently separated”. It’s just part and parcel of modern day dating, block and move on.

MomsSpecialFriend · 2019-12-26T20:54:22+00:00

You can forward information to wives, but you will find VERY quickly, they will blame you and bring hell into your life. One time a man lied to me and I just had a casual hookup with him. His wife found me based on my email, stalked me to my house and showed up to my house while I was home alone with small children, I had NO relationship with this man besides a one time fling, I was in a consensual open relationship, this man never even disclosed he was seeing anyone. Another man contacted me and I saw it was a friend's long term boyfriend. He wrote me how his gf "never lets him eat her pussy anymore" so I sent it to her. She held ME responsible, blocked me, etc. I have a dozen stories like this. Do your research and block these losers, but if you go any farther prepare to just add drama into your life.

Haltthemoon · 2019-12-26T23:37:36+00:00

Did you ask him about his relationship status?

Title	the guy who has been texting me for weeks is married and hided it. feelin disgusted, blocked
Author	cottoncandy240
Upvotes	54
Comments	21
Date	December 26, 2019 6:26 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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