TLDR; Basically the title.

A little bit of backstory that lead to me making this post: Was in a LTR a couple months back. Since then, I've been slowly putting my life on track and gotten myself mostly out of that psychological hole after you get dumped, and rebuilt some of my ego.

One mistake I've come to realise I've made is that I spent too much time with/on her. I've been talking with this chick nightly for at least one hour, usually upwards of 2 hours, throughout the 6-month dating period. Texts or call. Didnt tell her the nitty-gritty of my life though. Had the sense not to that at least.

Now, with hindsight 20/20, I see how that might've indeed contributed to her getting bored of me and taking my time for granted.

My question is, is this inevitable in the context of an LTR? Could better social skills ameliorate this in the future, and as such simply practicing it lead to better results?

What about on dates with new chicks? Where is the line between seeming interesting and mysterious and not dull and boring because of the silences and lack of excessive small-talk?