Being decent isn’t difficult

blilola · 2021-02-03T20:27:28+00:00

“Boys will be boys” is a cop out for either lazy parenting or men who purposely perpetuate misogyny and are gaslighting you simultaneously for their actions

alwaysonalongtrip · 2021-02-03T21:02:30+00:00

It's weird how easy it is for me to go around not raping people.

dovecharm · 2021-02-04T00:56:02+00:00

When I was 15, this boy two years older than me would send me his nudes and told me that he fantasizes about raping women. I took it to the dean, screenshots and all, and guess what the dean told me?

The dean told me that there was nothing he could do as this was the boy’s “personal matters.” He also told me I was “complicit” because I texted the boy back, threatening to turn him in. The dean did talk to the boy and his friends but none of them faced any repercussions.

A few months later that same boy assaulted me.

The dean didn’t explicitly say “boys will be boys” but he said something pretty damn close.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-02-04T06:03:00+00:00

My dad said "Shoot them" (rapists). He grew up in the Bronx and was a combat vet, so that was typical of him. Then again my EENT doc said the same thing and he went to Princeton and Yale: "If we shoot all the batterers and rapists, there'll be no more battered women or rape victims."

I'm going to assume they meant jury trial first, then firing squad.

UmmmHiHello · 2021-02-04T00:19:24+00:00

This triggered me to a memory in my childhood where I was running around with the neighborhood kids laying tag or something. I remember we all were btwn buildings and like ran into a wall or by a wall or something and I was pinned for a quick moment only for someone to grab between my legs.

I've it ever told my therapist and some 20+ years later.

JesusisKingisLord · 2021-02-03T20:00:48+00:00

Love this response!

oceanstains · 2021-02-03T19:45:28+00:00

I’ve never heard anyone say that about rape, honestly

Curiousquest2 · 2021-02-06T02:47:20+00:00

This is perfect, the frame around the tweet is perfect, everything is perfect about this 💜

Title	Being decent isn’t difficult
Author	mermaid1120
Upvotes	4261
Comments	34
Date	February 3, 2021 7:19 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/lbvnz3/being_decent_isnt_difficult/
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