I’m done hating women

Cobra_x30 · 2021-02-15T18:37:30+00:00

It sounds like you are getting away from Black Pill thinking.

I just caution you not to hang everything on this one relationship. You should not hate women, but instead see them as they are... beautiful and flawed. If this particular relationship goes south... and most relationships do... then you risk falling even deeper into black pill belief.

Carloverguy20 · 2021-02-15T21:38:46+00:00

Very happy for you man. Stay away from BlackPill thinking, it will warp your brain.

lmao1969 · 2021-02-16T16:28:02+00:00

met this beautiful girl.

She’s not shallow,

But aren't you admitting that you are shallow? Why do you hate it when women care about appearance but the first thing you talk about is a woman's appearance? Do you not see how hypocritical that is?

Bjay_jw · 2021-02-15T20:51:14+00:00

I happy you got out of that. I’m happy you had that final thought that told you it’s not good to generalize. But I’m sad that it always takes finally finding a partner to realize ones own self worth and not to hate other people.

ribbons_in_my_hair · 2021-02-15T21:44:20+00:00

“I may not quite get them or be frustrated with them sometimes” = me with men constantly hahahaha. But you’re right, I don’t want to hate me too either. Y’all aren’t so bad when the walls come down and we can really get to know each other. So, think about a couple things:

People are hard. Loneliness is hard. Choose your hard.
People can really care about you, but usually you have to form a genuine bond first.

...So many guys wanna date hot chicks or score etc. And they get the idea that women are so judgey and need to be fooled/manipulated into liking you... and it’s sad cause I’ve seen guys trying like that and it’s the hugest turn off ever. Just instant desert down below if you catch my drift. Maybe some girl falls for it eventually, but...

This: I’m sure if those dudes spent half the time they thought about “hating women”/gaming them on cultivating some personal interest (school, sports, art, playing an instrument, activism, gaming, comics, movies, cooking, etc etc etc, just some fun shit that interests you),

a. they’d have a lot more to talk about with women...

B. ...would probably develop some mastery as this thing and therefore cultivate some self esteem and confidence,

C. ...have a lot more fun things to share, would thus be WAY more appealing to women,

D. ...and they may find more genuine opportunities to meet said women (think music venues, game nights, recreational sports meetups, comic conventions, cooking class, the type of place where you go and you already know you have something in common with the people there),

...and they wouldn’t need any of those games or hours of blogging and YouTubing to “figure women out,” or etc.

Looking at letter D there, it sounds like you ended up in a place where you made a genuine, vulnerable connection with somebody. It sounds like you met at a mental health treatment place? It’s no cooking class, but you made a genuine, vulnerable connection where you were able to let your true self show and you wound up with a person who was understanding and supportive. Keep looking for real moments like this. They don’t have to be totally extreme, but if you can be your true self and find someone who meets you there, sees you and is accepting, you’ll have way more passionate and meaningful relationships. The type of thing no redpiller could even conceive of, the sorry dudes.

I feel kinda proud of you, this is one eye-opener, I hope you keep growing and learning. Personally I choose people over loneliness, despite how frustrating they may be. Good luck.

isthispassionpit · 2021-02-16T02:25:25+00:00

Congrats on your progress so far!! Just remember that this is a starting point. Respect for one woman because you have feelings for her doesn’t mean that you automatically respect all women. One is absolutely a start, but you can keep going!! Regardless of what happens with this woman, good or bad, hopefully it allows you to see the potential that women hold as human beings if you truly give them a chance and treat them as equals. You could find lots of new, fulfilling, relationships! Not that self-fulfillment is the only reason to respect women, but hopefully you understand what I mean. I’m sure someone upthread has expressed the same sentiment, but more eloquently!

longshaftmutant · 2021-02-16T01:58:38+00:00

This is beautiful man

Randalcunningham · 2021-02-15T16:21:37+00:00

Good for you man!!

RedPillDetox · 2021-02-15T17:34:25+00:00

My dude! Glad for you.

cvntcvntcvnt · 2021-02-16T05:57:27+00:00

This is great man, so happy for you. Nothing works better at bringing hope in our lives than other people that go against our preconceptions. The only question is whether we’re willing to open our arms and let the world come in. You’ve made a good choice 🙏🏼😍😍

Philipparty · 2021-02-16T20:39:14+00:00

Im so happy for you buddy. You made it :) No matter what hapoens in the future, hold that memory close

Shroomer14 · 2021-02-16T08:05:46+00:00

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yulemguysmmoja · 2021-02-24T06:47:08+00:00

You need confidence. Work on becoming a better version of yourself bro! You will build confidence, this is the only way out of this!

bellahadidlover · 2021-03-02T06:40:38+00:00

wait so you like her cuz she isn’t “shallow” but you’re as shallow as it gets for hating half the worlds population especially because of their gender... and now you claim you don’t hate women because one person showed you affection... this is very contradicting and confusing.

HotPsychology6957 · 2021-02-16T00:23:37+00:00

If you go on /r/femaledatingstrategy, you can see all the things redpillers complain about with the genders reversed.

Seeing the same time of bitterness from a different angle can be eye-opening. Although unlike TRP, there are actually some posts that make sense. You've just gotta wade through all the "I'm a feminist but I want guys to pay for meals because I'm a woman" rants.

Shroomer14 · 2021-02-16T03:13:19+00:00

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Title	I’m done hating women
Author	Shroomer14
Upvotes	86
Comments	75
Date	February 15, 2021 3:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/lkgd0n/im_done_hating_women/
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