When a girl isn't interested

redpillrobert · 2018-06-11T20:40:42+00:00

treat the 9's like the 6's and they're all 6's

MattyAnon · 2018-06-11T19:14:18+00:00

My "problem" is the girls I'm interested in seem to not show interest back after the first date. The ones I'm not interested in contact me repeatedly after the first date

Two issues here.

First issue: you want hotter than you, she wants hotter than her. Hence if you're interested she isn't, and vice versa. This is enough to explain the "they don't show interest when I do" effect.

Second issue: the way you express interest may work against you. If you're too keen, you'll trigger her "I can do better" instincts.

Assuming you are getting first dates but not second: what happens on these dates? Does the conversation flow easily? Do you touch her? Kiss her? Fuck her? Are you attracted to her?

fnordsnord · 2018-06-11T18:31:36+00:00

Pretty much. There are over 2.5 billion women on the planet. If one is not into me, I move on to the next one.

How many have you dated?

Auvergnat · 2018-06-11T20:57:00+00:00

Maybe start treating those you're interested in exactly as you do those who you are not interested in.

RaughKee · 2018-06-11T21:02:22+00:00

It's a funny conundrum, the chicks you aren't attracted to bring out the better DGAF attitude and you become more attractive. You are likely, at least at the subconscious level, showing too much interest in the ones you are attracted to and it's lowering your SMV.

chim_city · 2018-06-11T21:57:47+00:00

Patrice Oneal says, "pussy is important but its not special"

Patriotic_Pachyderm · 2018-06-12T00:18:50+00:00

I have a multi-part response, I hope you work through this sticking point.

The people you like don't like you, yet the people you don't like end up liking you. This is actually how attraction works because women "marry up." For any given man, I think they have a pretty small pool of women they would be "satisfied" with. So that is normal, no reason to freak out about that.
Because you are actually "interested" in the girl you want, it can fuck up your game. For the girls you don't like, there is less pressure on the date and you are probably displaying an IDGAF attitude. Girls like it when you don't care about them (most of the time).
This is my own personal view, so take it with a grain of salt, but I don't think you are respecting the process. You are focusing on the goal (high SMV woman) when you should be respecting the process of getting better. You should make one of these girls you are not interested in into your plate. Get sex on tap which will (a) cool down your anxiety/neediness which translates into better performance on dates with other women and (b) increase your experience managing women. If you are on a date with a woman and thinking about a date you may have with another woman on another day, you are definitely not respecting the process.
You say it is tough juggling, and I feel you brother. You REALLY have to increase your scheduling and time management skills, especially if you want to keep some plates going or even just want to be in an LTR with a high-quality woman. After a long time of doing this, it can still be difficult to schedule and remember everything.

NewHum · 2018-06-11T21:31:55+00:00

Yeah this will happen and it has happened to me many times. There will be times when you have women to chose from but cannot get the one you actually like.

It’s frustrating and brutal but it’s fine. As others have said there are literally billions of other girls out there for you to be with so it’s not a big deal.

It’s also probably the case that you have convinced yourself that she is way better than she actually is. Emotion have clouded your judgment and emotions really don’t matter in the long run.

Make a list of all the things you find anoying or of putting about her and you’ll quickly find out that she is far less perfect and awesome as you though she is.

Just move on, remind yourself that emotions are just chemicals in your brains and that there are always better girls out there

VengefullyY0urs · 2018-06-11T18:35:20+00:00

Don’t date girls you aren’t interested in, once you get your abundance mentality down.

NewBoomAction · 2018-06-11T19:39:04+00:00

Don't get caught up with oneitis. Abundance my brother. So. Many. Hot. Chicks.

It's a #'s game.

Scooter059 · 2018-06-11T21:55:31+00:00

Either work on your market value and up ur game, or lower your standards. It’s up to you

Casanova-Quinn · 2018-06-12T01:47:33+00:00

The ones I'm not interested in contact me repeatedly after the first date.

How do you act around the girls you're not interested in?

That's how you should act with the girls you are interested in.

rijeka1 · 2018-06-11T22:30:53+00:00

Follow Corey Wayne

adamantiumvibranium · 2018-06-12T04:26:56+00:00

Remember there are no unicorns it seems like to keep looking for something your never going to find. The faster you next the ones you like the sooner you have them chasing after you.

ariky · 2018-06-12T11:05:20+00:00

It was delicious to read all of this. So first of all thanks for your time. I was a bit disappointed thinking TRP is the thing but not the community, now I feel better because there are people like you. Thanks bro.

I try to get the balance in between individual and communal things in my life. Looks like I have been doing right.

Whitetallandhandsome · 2018-06-12T11:48:01+00:00

Those who show lack of interest probably saw you acting too needy, while with those who were not interesting for you noticed you DGAF attitude and made them more attracted to you.

That's my first impression at least.

RivenHalf · 2018-06-13T21:34:26+00:00

Not much to be said that hasn't already so to keep it clean and simple: Treat them all the same because they are all the same

Guerilla713 · 2018-06-11T20:09:30+00:00

And you know, maybe this is a reality check to show that I haven't "made it" and am nowhere near where I want to be or what my potential is/can be. The ego did get bruised a little this morning but that'll build back up quickly

wawakaka · 2018-06-11T19:17:13+00:00

Maybe you have unrealistic expectations

Are you going for women out of your league

Obviously some women like you what is wrong with them

Maybe you not as high as you think

Title	When a girl isn't interested
Author	Guerilla713
Upvotes	42
Comments	58
Date	June 11, 2018 6:06 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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