I wanted to post about diets, in relation to FDS because I feel that people’s issues with weight can be a hangover from pickmeisha days, and also because choosing the correct diet can be such a useful tool in many of our level up strategy. I want to point out that I am not a nutritionist, and I’m still on a journey to claiming a healthy level control of my diet, so keep that in mind in my post.

We all know that the patriarchy’s control over our body image and perception of beauty is a huge problem. It costs us lots of money, time, and often times any positive relationship with ourselves. Lots of us come into FDS on the back of years of yo-yo dieting, and more of us come in as comfort eaters/binge eaters. There is no question between the relationship between the two.

I often feel like the effect of our diets on our level-up journey, and our pickmeisha ways, is underplayed. Both yo-yo dieting and binge eating lead people to become malnourished, and this can affect our judgement too, malnourishment often decreases our brain functionality. When I look back on my pickmeisha days, I know I gave losers a chance that I shouldn’t have, because my self-image due to my obsession with losing weight was awful, but also because I was too damn tired to sit down and really think about the effects my dating choices were having on mine. Being honest, I thought all my problems would disappear if I could just fit into a size X pair of jeans!

Fad diets are a big business, and I’d argue that they are also a means to distract us. It works well, and the diets themselves are so ineffective and unsustainable that they keep you in a constant loop of binging and restricting. I think one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is the permission to stop restricting.

I would not say the desire to lose weight on your level-up journey is a bad one, and from many of the posts that I’ve read on here, lots of you ladies are doing it healthily. I would also say that if you’re a binge eater, an equally great gift would be to revaluate your eating habits too.

I am just a strong believer that because food is our energy, it is important for us to supply ourselves with energy that is the best for us – whether that’s giving up diets forever or starting to go to the gym more regularly and working out a food plan with a professional. Just as we are encourage to drop low value people on our journey, we should also drop unhealthy habits that bring similar energy. I think similar arguments can be made for smoking (cigarettes and weed), drinking alcohol, money spending habits, etc.

I won’t advise any post-diet journeys to take, as everyone is different and I think the thing the main thing I’d like to encourage is to do your own research, and find what works for you. What I will say, though, is that since I’ve given up stupid extreme diets, and found FDS of course, I have gotten my life back, and I can now finally enjoy being alone.

It doesn’t matter what size you are, you deserve to be happy, safe, comfortable, and LVM-free.

Edit: My post formatted weirdly, sorry!