Why do Red Pillers think almost every woman has Borderline Personality Disorder?

therapythrowaway1205 · 2021-06-15T17:02:58+00:00

i believe it would fall under the abuse tactic crazy-making. pushing someone until they explode and then proudly proclaiming they were right about you being unstable or some shit like that.

juliuspepperwoodchi · 2021-06-15T17:50:45+00:00

Because they're bigger projectionists than Tyler fucking Durden?

kigerting · 2021-06-15T18:24:06+00:00

Everytime one of them says something about women being crazy, having bipolar, borderline, “moody” I just think of the part from the Office where Michael is talking crazy to Jan and she is (reasonably) annoyed so he goes “let’s be lOgiCaL here”

harrietski · 2021-06-15T19:36:38+00:00

It is very BPD to accuse your spouse / partner of being Borderline. The men-as-victims-of-society movement feeds directly into it. I am a divorce attorney and also do custody investigations and have come across quite a few BPD individuals (mostly men, perhaps this is luck of the draw or indicative of something larger, idk).

BPD doesn't go away, has a strong correlation with childhood neglect / abandonment, and it is really antithetical (IMO) to being in any functional romantic relationship. It is almost impossible for Borderlines to self-regulate their emotions as partners or parents, but at the same time I have been surprised at the level of emotional blackmail, tantrums, and painful barbs the children and partners of BPDs learn to live with and shrug their shoulders at over time.

RedPillDetox · 2021-06-15T21:47:14+00:00

Because their drama/abuse tactics only attract women that like drama/abusive relationships (BPD women)

xXMachineWomanXx · 2021-06-15T18:42:47+00:00

They just don’t like women. They complain about women being irrational and emotional, but if a woman is stoic and calm, they’ll accuse her of trying to be a man.

bruhcrossing · 2021-06-16T01:44:31+00:00

It’s more than just that, they think women are illogical children, less evolved than them.

xvszero · 2021-06-16T00:35:29+00:00

Because they are sexist assholes who have repeatedly failed with women, so instead of acknowledging they might be the problem, they turn all women into the problem.

ThatsNotteHat · 2021-06-16T03:46:19+00:00

BPD is a post traumatic response that typically forms after recurring abuse— I genuinely think my mom has this disorder. Therapists used to refuse these clients, but nowadays clinicians are claiming it’s treatable if the client is willing to put in the work- dialectical behavioral therapy.

I’ve begged my mom to get help. I think she’s too ashamed. Our relationship was a lot like the musical Wicked when I was a teen- she was like young Elfeba and since turned into the wicked witch. I have a lot of love for her still. It’s a disorder, and although I don’t condone her abusive outbursts, I understand that she’s sick. Have not seen her in person for almost two years because I get sick around her disordered actions. Still, I miss her. She has so many beautiful qualities and I try to remember she’s a whole person- not just the disorder.

I can’t enable her through the victim/persecutor/rescuer cycles anymore. But I am hopeful that someday she will decide to seek treatment and then I’ll be willing to reunite.

So baby humans especially learn by mirroring adults… and I fear that after a lifetime of interacting with mom, I now exhibit subclinical bpd traits only when I’m in relationships with partners from similar home backgrounds. Both my ex partner and I tended toward victim/persecutor/rescuer roles. We didn’t do it when we were trying to remain aware, but it seemed more like an autopilot habit. Like we were accustomed to this way of life because of our dysfunctional homes, and were under a spell. I hate it. I wish I could stop entirely. So now I do the DBT work that I’ve begged mom to do. Instead of trying to fix/rescue her and cheerleading her, I’m doing it for myself. Here’s to healing! :)

Thanks for the vent space. I feel more accepting of reality from a more peaceful place after typing about it.

DuncanIdaho88 · 2021-06-15T17:25:22+00:00

Socially awkward men and emotionally unstable women tend to find each other. Ever noticed how most spouses of BPD women tend to be unconfident, awkward and introverted?

Most redpillers are as awkward as you can get. I almost bought into it myself in my late teens,.and I have Asperger's syndrome.

Carloverguy20 · 2021-06-15T23:11:51+00:00

They lack experience

Swordfish1762 · 2021-06-16T11:52:20+00:00

Because every Red Piller has BPD.

Title	Why do Red Pillers think almost every woman has Borderline Personality Disorder?
Author	AIisVolatPropriis
Upvotes	56
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Date	June 15, 2021 4:58 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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