Making HVW friends

More_Pothos · 2021-06-24T00:59:34+00:00

I’m in the same boat. It can be hard to make lasting friendships. I think the best way is to join communities full of women who are also leveling up or giving back. You may have to sort through some LV people, but it’ll be a lot easier to meet, vet, and bond with women if you see them naturally multiple times a month. Some ideas: sports league, improv class, “Women in X Industry” society, gym class, book club, volunteering group, work, dancing class, a meet-up group, school….

szarcat · 2021-06-24T01:49:42+00:00

Man I lost one of my best friends of 13 years to pickmeism. She legit dropped all her friends and some family just to be with a guy she just met.

birdsandcraftsbitch · 2021-06-24T03:53:36+00:00

I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this and I’ve been using a few strategies to build my idea community around me!

I tried identifying HVW who were already in my periphery, maybe they were small business owners, friends of friends, someone involved in a hobby community, and started throwing out feelers for potential friends.

I recently told a HVW I’m already friends with that I’m looking to meet more like-minded (high value) people. I asked her to invite me to social gatherings sometimes, and that’s been really fun.

Another is a woman I used to be kinda good friends with and I reached out and asked how she’s been and if she wanted to get together. She did and we had so much fun! I was very chaotic when we knew each other before but now we have very similar lifestyles and goals.

I also took an improv class a few years ago and met a few really great ladies.

The thing I try to keep in mind is, building relationships with HVW takes time. You have to consistently show up, be patient, and let go of the outcome. As HVW, their time is precious and their energy is valuable. Put yourself in situations with other HVW, introduce yourself or ask for an introduction if you have mutual friends, and then simply be the HVW you are. I think it’s good to be forthcoming and ask them to coffee/lunch/go to your party/etc if you guys vibe, but don’t expect a relationship to happen immediately or be too pushy for someone’s time.

Don’t forget to have fun and be chill. It’s not hard to fall into pickme-ism when there’s a cool gal you really want to be your friend.

sruslywhytho · 2021-06-24T05:49:33+00:00

Find groups of women that are already intentionally working to uplevel themselves. Like think meetup hiking groups, bookclubs, hobbyist groups, etc. Also consider investing in yourself. Many of the HVW in my network have come from personal development conferences/seminars I've attended and offshoot friendships from those events.

radsera99 · 2021-06-24T07:40:18+00:00

Idk why but the only HVW I’ve met are on the internet

MACMUA · 2021-06-25T00:17:39+00:00

Same ladies

I read, meditate, yoga, jog… I try not to invest time in low value or dollar meal behaviors (binge drinking, eating fast food, overspending)

I hope I can meet like minded boss women

moooooopg · 2021-06-24T01:22:35+00:00

Same here!! Following

Title	Making HVW friends
Author	Bonds_Girl
Upvotes	117
Comments	14
Date	June 23, 2021 5:27 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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