Women don't owe men free therapy. I remind myself often that a man is an entire adult who is completely capable of taking care of his mental health. As someone who has struggled with their mental health and made so much progress, I used to get caught up in my partners mental health, trying to encourage them to go to therapy, or even to put in extra effort into helping them through stress. Never again. I cannot fix people, nor is it my responsibility. A HVM in this context makes sure he gets his ass to therapy if he needs it, and has the desire and motivation to seek professional help. He also knows that im not his therapist, and that the most I can do is gently cheer him on, discuss solutions, or have vent sessions that I can set my boundaries around. A standard of mine is to date a man who has relatively good mental health, and ALSO continually seeks out help and practices genuine emotional growth. I just cannot date losers who choose to be emotionally stuck. If he wanted to be happier, he would...