My boyfriend wants to get married in 2 months. Would like some advice.

mandoa_sky · 2021-07-30T07:31:16+00:00

the guy has issues.

run fast and far.

he needs a therapist and meds, not a girlfriend

SunshineSundress · 2021-07-30T06:23:13+00:00

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7007001 · 2021-07-30T09:11:14+00:00

I looked at your post history and saw 🚩 everywhere. I think you need help

SunshineSundress · 2021-07-30T08:14:46+00:00

Shotgun marriage are never good in my opinion, not back in the day when people did it so they could finally have sex with each other and especially not today when you have plenty of contraceptive options at your disposal. 1 month may be enough time to vet a man to be your boyfriend, but to be your husband? There’s almost no way you know enough about him to see if he can be a LIFETIME partner. As the gatekeeper of commitment, your boyfriend seems to have an EXTREMELY low bar for what it takes to gain that commitment. This gives me pause: why are his standards for commitment-worthy women so low that he’s willing to give it to someone he barely knows? It makes me think there’s some desperation to it.

Beyond that, there are plenty red flags in what you wrote that would keep me from dating this man, let alone marrying him FOR LIFE.

1) he’s “sort of mean” to you: you’re 1 month into your relationship and he’s already unpleasant to be around. At a month in, people are usually trying their hardest to make a good impression, and yet he’s already mean. What’s gonna happen when you both get comfortable and the masks come off? How mean will he be then?

2) he’s a blatant and unrepentant liar: when you caught him lying about his ex, not only did he not apologize but he also turned the tables on YOU. By telling you that you could never love him because of his ex, he pushes the blame on you for your desires (desires that you admit aren’t that strict anyways) and absolves himself of any wrongdoing in one fell swoop. He justified his lie as a way to maintain your love. Huh?? So lying is okay as long as it benefits him? Knowing that this is his mindset, I’d have a hard time trusting any word out of his mouth after this.

3) he has a HUGE lack of frame, leadership, and functional mental health: any man who’s dependent on a woman he started dating a month ago for his happiness is not a man who can properly lead you. You cannot submit to, respect, or depend on a man whose emotions flip flop like this. A man who feels “miserable daily” because of a woman he just started dating, or who’s quick to name call isn’t a man who is emotionally stable. You also mention in the comments that he’s been suicidal before. He’s not fit to be the head of your household, and that’s exactly what he’s gonna be if you marry him.

I would seriously reconsider your relationship with this man. You also need to examine yourself: why do you think this is what you want/deserve in a man? Why do you want to help him to your own detriment? Why aren’t you considering these red flags before entering into a very serious commitment with him, one that makes all of the very serious problems he has into YOUR problems?

RPW strategy can work wonders, but on ONE big condition: the man you pick needs to be worthy of your submission and capable of protecting you, your best interests, and your family together. If the man you pick is largely unable to do these things, RPW won’t save your relationship and it won’t save your wellbeing either.

Blackhawk2479 · 2021-07-30T07:20:27+00:00

Relationships, and especially marriages, should not be predicated on one party’s dysfunction and the other’s unhealthy need to try and fix it.

Continuing this cripplingly unhealthy “relationship” is an impossibly bad idea and one that can only end in disaster.

He is not your responsibility, he needs serious, professional help and all you will do is further enable his self-destruction with your continued involvement.

You have posted a long list of red flags here that should be obvious to any rational person, so along with encouraging him to get the help he needs, you should consider at the very least some introspection as to why you’re even entertaining the idea of marrying him, if not some help for yourself too.

IHaveSalesQuestions · 2021-07-30T06:24:39+00:00

Run. Fast.

cats5483 · 2021-07-30T16:51:39+00:00

do yourself a favor and leave him

Guilty_Squash7098 · 2021-07-30T17:44:22+00:00

bekkys · 2021-07-30T18:25:24+00:00

He sounds…. SUPER insecure? Which is a problem he should solve and not take out on you, btw.

Title	My boyfriend wants to get married in 2 months. Would like some advice.
Author	Gatitagordrita
Upvotes	0
Comments	38
Date	July 30, 2021 6:19 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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