Should you even bother with girls while getting ur s*** together?

TRPanalyst · 2018-07-05T01:25:37+00:00

Doesn’t hurt to just mess around, to just flirt, attract, and improve game.

Just do what you gotta do and don’t listen to false judgment, you’re improving.

drqxx · 2018-07-05T01:46:19+00:00

It's always good to sharpen your sword.

SkorchZang · 2018-07-05T03:05:52+00:00

Yes. You're a man, it's your birthright and sacred duty to hit on sexy ladies in your vicinity. It's irrelevant if you don't succeed, sometimes they just shoot everybody down. That's just women. There's no problem with not having much success, in fact it'll shape you up quickly. The big mistake is to stop playing the bigger game "while you wait" out of cowardice and want for more safety, do not accept anything that requires you to let go of your birthright as a man. It's a variation on progressive bluepill self-delusion, where you postpone living "until you're ready". No, that's a big mistake - you're already in the fight, keep swinging all the way.

The ladies out there literally need you for their survival, emotional survival at the very least. They need you to be a complete man all the way, even while you're working on yourself like an artist on his clay. And you're more than capable of providing that level of service, so don't shirk it.

Fun2badult · 2018-07-05T03:12:52+00:00

Just because you’re not going into a battle yet, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be practicing your sword skills

Threwuhway · 2018-07-05T03:06:23+00:00

This is a great question. I'm recently single and slowly getting my shit together. I'm focusing on running daily, and eating healthy. I think things will come together but it just takes time, and right now I'm not focusing on girls - just me.

I think going out and trying to talk to girls would be a good idea for both of us. There's no harm if we get rejected but at least we're getting out there!

My advice (which I should follow) is to go out with some friends and chat up a few girls. Who knows what happens and you don't have to pay for a date just the uber home if you're lucky.

TheBrokenRuler · 2018-07-05T04:40:52+00:00

I'd say practice your skills on girls but ONLY as a secondary- never let it take your focus away from lifting and learning.

MattyAnon · 2018-07-05T11:32:30+00:00

at this point should I even be trying to get girls?

Yes, don't go rusty on this

KilluaKanmuru · 2018-07-05T16:19:35+00:00

Men have attracted women with less.

fidelred01 · 2018-07-05T01:51:19+00:00

Is not having a car a huge issue in gaming girls? This is one of my current excuses as to not really starting trp.

mrpoopistan · 2018-07-05T04:45:16+00:00

Yes. Because, seriously, it's possible to walk and chew bubble gum at the same time.

Also, don't make excuses for not seeking what you want.

NewBoomAction · 2018-07-05T14:47:57+00:00

Hell yeah you should. I'd just like to add I've had good success treating some high smv girls as an actual friend. I doubt I'll fk these girls but I look g as fk when I can invite some baddies to whatever party I'm at.

The other girls notice and the homies respect you. Plus it gets you more invites to cool shit.

bluechipmonk · 2018-07-05T16:06:59+00:00

my biggest regret was not playing when I was getting my s** together. Girls would flirt and approach me and I'd push them away.

Whisper · 2018-07-05T03:24:08+00:00

Yes.

Not because you expect to have great success, but for practice.

Driadek · 2018-07-05T18:02:42+00:00

It may be a lack of self discipline but I find it much easier to stay on track to self improvement when I'm talking to girls and much easier to slip up and slack off when I'm feeling more lonely without attention

Lurker9898 · 2018-07-05T04:39:41+00:00

Who's to say, really? It depends on what you value. If you just want to focus on, improving and enjoying your own life and don't value sex, there's not much cause to mess around with girls. If you hold pussy high on the pedestal of priorities and long-term goals, then eventually you will be hunting for sexy ladies. You should always keep in mind that they want you because you have that nice car, paycheck and all things that can potentially be theirs to enjoy. Once that well runs dry, they're hunting for another guy. Keep that wealth to yourself and use it on guy things. Nevertheless, if your long-term goal is to attract ladies after becoming successful, then it never hurts to improve your game. Remember, this is the #metoo era of false-rapes after all. Listen and believe. Remember that the car is expensive as well and you will have to be taking care of it. The gym membership needs to be renewed and you need to buy rent and food and you're living from paycheck to paycheck. Where's the money for her restaurant dates or fancy new purses?

[deleted] · 2018-07-05T05:32:22+00:00

A little fun now and again is fine. Once it starts occupying more time than your mission, you’ve got problems.

Ironhead101 · 2018-07-05T06:32:13+00:00

Thought about this the other day, came to the conclusion that you only have more to gain from it and nothing to lose. What you can gain is more information about what worked and what didn't. Then once you feel like you have gotten your life together, you'll have more knowledge and experience to improve your success rate. But really, don't over complicate things to where you come up with excuses about why you shouldn't be trying to get girls. After a while, gaming girls should become a habit.

sometimespredictable · 2018-07-05T07:18:49+00:00

Fat unemployed losers who do nothing to change their situation get laid sometimes. You are working on your life, that means you are much better off than those people and there is nothing keeping you from getting girls.

A big self improvement lie is that you have to have a super solid life to get a girl. That's simply wrong and is a self-limiting belief.

abudun79 · 2018-07-05T08:21:19+00:00

You know, that are pretty nice plans. But everything except for your job isn't there yet. So do you want to sit down, jerk off and wait until your dreams come true instead of getting laid?

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2018-07-05T15:50:52+00:00

Some guys will say yes some will say no. My advice is no, get comfortable with yourself first..build your surplus..females will only drain that.

beachbbqlover · 2018-07-05T16:21:26+00:00

A smart move at this point is to consider whether you want to get a vasectomy or not. Yes, of course you still wear a condom, but this is about legally protecting the rest of your life.

bannedfromWTFmod · 2018-07-05T03:27:40+00:00

Yup

Always game, the rejection you can use as motivation to strive to better yourself.

epiigram30 · 2018-07-05T02:41:13+00:00

Go for the body, and the head will follow. Strive for success, and you know what's next.

BrownLeatherShoe · 2018-07-05T04:27:20+00:00

Yeah man definitely try, as you're growing mentally even just having one around for a short amount of time will give you loads of experience. Keep on pal

2comment · 2018-07-05T05:02:18+00:00

For me it is since I have to Uber everywhere it’s not fun paying $18 to get to a date, pay for that date, then pay $18 to get home especially since I just got a job that’s like minimum wage.

Then the answer is no. Focus on yourself until you're not paying for dates.

Us3rn4m321 · 2018-07-05T05:48:40+00:00

Not until you're finished reading The Sidebar. Otherwise, you probably going to make mistakes that will distract and drain you.

woodquest · 2018-07-05T06:57:13+00:00

I had the same questioning. In a phase where i needed money education and getting in shape.

So i got a few girls, making a point not to pay nor "invest" , strictly obvious fuckdates with close to 100% exit rate after the least amount of tinder chat. I got quite good at that.

Even with that "minimalist setup", i still had to find it in myself how to pick her up. Be it telling her the first shit that comes out, it's still an investment. And then showup in a bar, maybe have some wine, maybe pay a part. And then spend a rather sleepless night.

For me, i's still time energy and money consuming. puts me out of balance for my mission. It's so easy to have a few more drinks, spend my gym money on wine. Then It feels great and because it feels great i get hooked so quickly on the gamble aspect of digging more girls from tinder with the least amount of effort.

To the point where i just collect girls wanting to meet or giving their number and then ignore them.

So, for me now, girls are a very distracting and rather costly game, even if playing Chad the funny plummer. But everyone could be different i guess, so check for yourself and see if you can juggle easy between chicks and your mission.

bpjsdrp · 2018-07-05T08:49:49+00:00

Remember man, your happiness comes first before anything external from you. As you improve, everything else will follow.

I'm actually going through this right now. Decided to get a second full time job that will skyrocket me in my field in terms of skillet. At the same time, I decided to talk/see this woman. While I decide to spend some time with her, the mission comes first. If she falls off, then just gotta move forward.

Dark_Lord_A · 2018-07-05T14:21:06+00:00

I won't. But then again I don't think any of you guys need as much work as I do.

02537-41101 · 2018-07-05T15:51:02+00:00

Not for relationships.

boy_named_su · 2018-07-05T16:56:17+00:00

On one side, it's tough to get rejected. On the other, it's a good challenge to try and game chicks when you're not quite there yet.

I would try being friendly and chatting girls up. Don't worry about the outcome, just work on the process

Metalgear222 · 2018-07-05T17:59:58+00:00

Yes, be outcome independent though. You don't have to worry so much about the # close, kiss close, or f close, just talk to them and tease them. Get used to interacting with them and learning their ticks. It will strengthen your game for when it's time flash your big SMV dick socially.

cptgoatsack · 2018-07-05T20:35:46+00:00

I'd avoid relationships and just concentrate on having some ONS/Plates.

OfficerWade · 2018-07-05T07:37:21+00:00

hONESTLY, this should be a rule in this community so here goes. Get your shit together but at the same time your doing all of this, pay attention to the way you interact with people. Watch yourself get upset by whats happening and excited, happy, sad, etc. just as you go about your day and notice when theres something wrong you can remind yourself that im just in the matrix and this is all an illusion. Hope this helps, brother.

wataDs · 2018-07-05T10:17:30+00:00

If you can manage accessing the confident part of your character when the chips are down, you will improve more thoroughly. If you dont work on it, no amount of muscle and money will grant it to you. Take it from me.

Title	Should you even bother with girls while getting ur s*** together?
Author	lilstxn
Upvotes	68
Comments	51
Date	July 5, 2018 1:15 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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