The week after we paid off our mortgage, she (60F) told me she wants a divorce after 15 years. She can now afford to live here on her own and I need to go. I am in a guest room in the basement. We live in a community property state with no-fault divorce, so the laws are kind of weird.
I need two orthopedic surgeries, knee replacement and spinal fusion, and we are covered by her health insurance. I am retired; she works part-time as a nurse. We have 20 years of good and bad memories. I had no idea we were not in this for the long haul.
She wants out in large part because I am not a competitive endurance athlete, like she is. I can barely take a short hike until I get a new knee.
Can she just throw me out because I am not up to her standards?
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I am trying to understand why it can't be required to sell a joint home... it should not be allowed that one person lives their and other moves out.. that's bullshit. If everything is 50/50 in most places.. then either you both live their or you sell and both find another place.. or one person buys the other out. That's it. Their shouldn't be you renting some place while she lives in the house you both own and lived. If that is the case, then even if she is paying the mortgage..she is holding your half hostage until she apparently decides its ok to sell.. that can't be right.
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I keep reading this..but I have a WFH job where I am on calls..and she continues to be a pain in the ass sometimes with being loud or fighting with me and causing me to not get my work done. I don't want to have her kicked out either.. but I am OK with leaving if their can be some sort of agreement that either she has to buy me out at the price our house would fetch (right now homes are going for 100K above asking price in our area.. I dont want her to buy me out on the valuation of the house..but on what it would sell for.. or I lose 50K or more). But I also want to be out of here.. not dealing with her shit every day of the week.. my sanity is on the line here. So how do you live co-habitat with one party being a bit crazier than the other?
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I just spoke to a friend whose lawyer told him to move out.. it didn't affect him at all in the divorce and he was able to avoid the insanity of his x..
Why do some say not to move out until divorce is final... that could take a year or longer.. and I may have to move for a job sooner. Some say stay until the divorce is served.. then move out (per lawyer/etc agreement) while divorce is on going. Some say move the fuck out now... what are the reasons for these disparities.. not saying you are wrong.. but it seems odd that their are different opinions.
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