Can u transition from uncool nerd to cool guy by getting a nice body?

WheresMyNeckbeard · 2017-06-11T15:03:27+00:00

no. A great body (given your face isn't ugly) gives you more opportunities to learn social skills because by virtue of your attractiveness, people are more forgiving and will give you the benefit of the doubt, but it will not inherently make you cool.

Being cool comes from inner self assurance that you, your hobbies and interests, your values, and the things that give you fulfillment in life should not judged by anyone but yourself given that it does not actively try to harm others. If you're passionate about being the best ping pong player in the world and you put your all into it, then it doesn't matter if a smoking model says you're fucking lame. Some of the coolest people i know don't lift, don't go out, and play DnD with each other. They're cool because they as people are content with how they perceive themselves.

However, that's not to say that just because you're cool that you have social skills. Those are two different things which depending on the person will or won't overlap. People with good social skills aren't people who say the smoothest things, rather it's the people who know what NOT to say given the situation. That's learned through trial and effort and it truly is a skill you can learn through experience.

Docbear64 · 2017-06-11T16:03:44+00:00

You can be a cool nerd, women tend to " bend" to the interests of men they find attractive. I enjoy videogames, comics, the nerd treasure trove . All the women I've met have essentially adopted or amplified their interest in these things because of me . Part of it is that they find me attractive.

How you look matters , how you carry and feel about yourself and convey that matters a lot once you become more attractive . An attractive nerd with poor social skills will have problems just like an unattractive one.

RedKekistani · 2017-06-11T15:31:08+00:00

Learn frame, inner game, normal game, work out, become more social and you'll have girls throwing themselves at your feet in no time. Don't ever apologise for your passions or try to change them. Unless you're into interracial gay midget porn.

DiggerClam · 2017-06-11T14:19:09+00:00

Try it out then report back here.

Terribledragon4Hire · 2017-06-11T15:17:46+00:00

From a far you are judged on looks. When you interact is when your personality flaws are revealed.

Being a nerd and uncool is a personality trait. Having a good body doesn't change your personality. Being conscious about how you act and how you are perceived is the only way to change that.

GayLubeOil · 2017-06-11T16:44:14+00:00

You can transition from uncool to cool via working out not by building a better body but by building a better mind. Nerds are uncool because they have a low stress threshold. They flip out over stupid shit. Well if you've been squating deadlift and jerking heavy for years you won't react to stupid shit anymore.

Gostkowski · 2017-06-11T14:41:26+00:00

Learn Game. Nice body is a big plus (especially for Tinder), but without Game you won't have success with women.

telecowboy · 2017-06-11T15:57:48+00:00

No. You'll just be an uncool nerd with a good body. Girls still won't fuck you. Please read the sidebar don't tell me you have.

TxnyMontana · 2017-06-11T16:48:27+00:00

Totally bro, being nerd it's just a part of us. Im an engineer and computers are my life. I just consider it cool, maybe the coolest thing ever. In my frame, being smart is the most badass thing you can be. Are you a cars driver? lol what a waste of a brain. better engineering

anyway hahah im not comparing myself to nothing, i just love what I do and i dont give a fuck. Girls will feel that passion and if you can make it sound genuine and cool, girls will be interested in your nerdy stuffs, trust me.

A hot body makes the difference, it will open a lot of doors to you, but as people told you here, game should be your primary weapon. As long as you're chill and not a weirdo you will be ok. (learn body language and social skills)

about your concern, IMO being neerd and being cool are two things that holds hands in between.

SkorchZang · 2017-06-12T07:48:54+00:00

The most important thing you can do is stop being an all-round Nice Guy, and learn to appreciate and wield Game.

What you do in the gym is strictly between you and the iron. Don't allow filthy low level ambitions like "I want to get in Becky's pants" defile your temple. You're growing as a man. It's a sacred thing.

IVIaskerade · 2017-06-11T16:06:35+00:00

No. But you can be a nerd with a nice body, which helps.

moonpodrising · 2017-06-11T16:12:14+00:00

Here's a way for nerd types to build confidence: write and publish online. Blog on the technical subjects you know about. First, write technical stuff that's relevant for those in your field. Then connect it with topics that normies care about. Build authority, get comfortable speaking in person about it.

Get competent and knowledgeable enough and perhaps get into public speaking. Good for your career too.

Peter_B_Long · 2017-06-11T19:30:57+00:00

It won't transition 100% but it can help. Lifting gives you naturally a sense of confidence. It also boosts your testosterone which gives 'fuckable' traits. It gives you a drive, helps your body language and your voice qualities. Being attractive helps you get a first date and some IOI's, but that's how far it'll take you. Confidence, charisma, and amused mastery are what get you laid. Lifting is definitely the first stepping stone and the frame to get you started, but keep finding new things to help you.

mdcrubengonza · 2017-06-11T19:51:36+00:00

Yes. Me for example.

quicklogaccount · 2017-06-11T20:01:00+00:00

Oh. You're me.

Yeah, a great body will help.

SisyphosOnTop · 2017-06-11T20:20:38+00:00

You couple

[...] getting a nice body

with

[...] and I'm very confident in my abilities, intelligence, etc,

and you are good to go. Having a good body will increase your confidence, better your hormonal levels and adds on your IDGAF frame. I mean come on.. Would you really care what some random hot chick in the club thinks of you when you are a shredded god, highly successful in IT?

Besides, chicks will forgive you more with an increasingly hot body. So your social skills don't need to be that sharp. But you can easily work on that as well. If I have to guess, your so called 'nerd vibe' is just a combination of bad posture/bad body/lack of fashion style.

Willow-girl · 2017-06-12T11:53:36+00:00

If "getting a nice body" makes YOU feel invincible, hence fuckable, sure, it will work!

mcscratchandsniff · 2017-06-15T05:26:57+00:00

Frame is what you're looking for

Kapyong · 2017-06-11T16:32:10+00:00

Just like everyone here is saying, cool is something that is developed internally. I remember back in high-school there was a group of about 2-3 guys that were not good-looking at all, had relatively chubby bodies, but were considered cool as fuck - and it was all about the demeanour of "we don't give a fuck what you think." And they weren't even popular, they were just "those guys."

DarkishUniform · 2017-06-11T17:14:11+00:00

I decided to check your post history because your name looked familiar. Your last post here says you've been working out for 6 months, but your edit on this post says you've been working out for two weeks. Which is it?

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