Hi- i'm hoping to get some advice from you all. I'm currently fighting for 50/50 custody of my children...right now I have 40%. My case was finalized last year and I'm wanting to fight for equal split of custody (legal and physical)...not asking advice on whether to fight for that or not...during my trial my ex bashed me as a father and used people who i thought were my friends to lie about me as a father. It was absolutely not true but it worked for her. The judge believed her story that I was an absent father and was reluctant to even give me 40% custody. One of their tactics she used and continues to use was really pushing how much she supports them in their extracurriculars...i have struggled financially during and now after the divorce....i work a ton and with the outrageous cs and alimony I'm barely making ends meet or even having time and she continues to enroll them overbearingly in all sorts of extracurriculars...bouncing them around from sport to sport...I'm not opposed to extracurriculars but her desire to enroll them in 2-3 activities each per season is a little much...i recently took initiative ahead of the summer season to share some ideas for extracurriculars and she completely dismissed all of my suggestions...her reasoning was that the kids want to do X, Y, and Z which is not true because they are all under the age of 10 and when they are with me they tell me they are more interested in doing other things...she is not willing to cooperate with me even though according to our decree she is supposed to...I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed due to the divorce, her misleading story to the judge, and the judge telling me that if he hears from her that I'm not supportive of extracurriculars he is going to allow her to have full rights to enroll them in whatever she wants without consulting me and make me pay.

I'm wondering if anyone has dealt with anything similar...it feels like I'm tied to doing whatever she wants not to. I'm trying to develop the tough skin but she annoys the hell out of me