Ex Wants Help w/ Taxes

dharmattan · 2026-02-18T16:24:32+00:00

God no.

Objective-Fan-5464 · 2026-02-18T16:16:27+00:00

She gave up custody, doesn't financially support the children (assuming she doesnt pay CS), and now wants the tax benefit?

As you said, you already know the answer so please take this as validation that your answer is correct.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2026-02-18T15:58:34+00:00

Niope.

Gattsama · 2026-02-18T15:55:45+00:00

She is your ex for a reason. If you have soul custody, you receive no child support, and you were the sole person providing financial support for the children; then the tax deduction is yours.

If your divorce decree or parenting plan says something different; then follow the plan/ decreed. Otherwise no is a complete sentence. Her financial issues be they successful or otherwise; are no longer your concern or issue.

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-02-18T15:04:20+00:00

"No" is a complete sentence. Practice saying it in the mirror until you're comfortable with it. If that isn't enough, then I recommend reading "When I Say No I Feel Guilty" and implement the tools within.

If you've got a long-distance parenting plan, why isn't she paying you CS when you're doing all the heavy lifting? In the US even if both of you agreed to no CS, the state will always enforce CS if you petition the court for it. They're financially incentivized by the federal gov't to do so.

Spared-No-Expense · 2026-02-18T06:15:59+00:00

Not enough info on what she did to you, or you to her, or your financial situation. Perhaps you can find out how much she would stand to save from it and just pay her that in cash as a short term loan, coordinated via email so there’s a paper trail. That way you don’t have to give up a right that’s was decided upon. And now she’s in your debt (most people avoid folks they owe money to and are late paying back, so that’s a bonus to keep her away), and you can also throw it in her face that she owes you money to win any future argument as well. Also, other favor requests may drop while she is still in your debt. Or maybe not, squeaky wheels gonna squeak.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-02-18T03:08:17+00:00

Don't know but sounds a bit like tax fraud if you ask me.

Grafixx5 · 2026-02-18T02:03:12+00:00

If your decree states that you alternate kids or whatever, then fine. Otherwise, no.

SnooLobsters3636 · 2026-02-18T01:28:49+00:00

Do only exactly what is required of you by law. Nothing more. Nothing less. If you are court ordered to allow her to claim a dependant then do so, if you aren't then, don't.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2026-02-18T01:11:56+00:00

What does your parenting plan say about this?

Retying3043 · 2026-02-18T04:00:39+00:00

Decree says I get to claim them

Title	Ex Wants Help w/ Taxes
Author	Retying3043
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	February 18, 2026 1:09 AM UTC (6 months ago)
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