Feeling worthless.

Eric_C_Productions · 2025-04-19T06:11:11+00:00

As they say, don't let that anger and hate consume you. I'm sorry to hear that your marriage ended the way it did. But its over now and you need to move on. Sure it hurts and the betrayal stings but in the end, she did you a favor. What happened if she didn't get pregnant and just continued cheating on you until she gave you an STD or something like that? Would you have felt any different?Bottom line, she gave you your freedom. She gave you a chance to find happiness again. A second chance to find love. So instead of looking at her with anger and disgust, dude she gave you your life back. Now you don't have to worry about her cheating on you and her lack of morals or value. She's trash. You don't need that in your life, so meet new women. Meet someone better. Someone who won't cheat on you.

But also, be a role model to your kid. Be the better parent and take the high road. You don't need to sink to her level by talking crap about her to your kid. Show your kid what a responsible adult should be and how they should act. Teach them that hate and anger shouldn't cloud their judgement and avoid making rash decisions based on emotions. You know she is a loser. And remember that karma is real. So, let her be. Let her go through her life without a single ounce of guilt. In the end, she will always have to answer to someone.

I know what that sting of betrayal is like. It sucks. But as you get older and hopefully wiser, you will find that there is always a silver lining to that. Me? If a woman is going to cheat on me, go ahead. I don't need her. She just did me a favor. Move on, find someone else. Or just live your life. Do what makes you happy. Life is short. Make the most of it.

LashkarNaraanji123 · 2025-04-18T16:51:43+00:00

It's all about mentality; instead of focusing on her, focus on your recovery.

One way to change the mental about it - consider that she was a chronic disease you miraculously recovered from, and are now free to enjoy life, pursue your interests, and have a big burden off your shoulders!

probebeta · 2025-04-18T16:41:01+00:00

It sucks, but you have two choices: dwell on the past and think about all the betrayal, or work towards rebuilding, make money, workout, meet beautiful women. I've done both, and I can tell you the latter works! You've got this.

Maseworld · 2025-04-18T12:19:45+00:00

Should do the opposite. Forgive but never forget. Youre carrying a ton of baggage that will hold you back from moving forward. You may want to look into talking with a professional to unpack all this so you can move on.

ExaminationKlutzy194 · 2025-04-18T11:49:44+00:00

This is grief. It’s awful. Find help in working through it. You don’t ever have to trust her again and you shouldn’t, but right now she’s figuratively “winning” in a way she shouldn’t.

DeepAnt8165 · 2025-04-18T10:49:04+00:00

It is more common than you think

VeteranEntrepreneurs · 2025-04-18T10:27:35+00:00

I don’t know what to say that makes any of this fair, because it’s not. What she did was cruel, and it’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to feel like the pain might never leave your body. Some things shake your spirit so deeply that pretending to be fine isn’t strength—it’s survival.

But here’s the thing. At some point, not for her but for you, you’ve got to stop letting her live rent-free in your head. She already took enough.

You don’t have to forgive. You don’t have to forget. But you do have to figure out how to stop carrying her with you every damn day. That part is yours to take back.

You deserve peace. Even if you have to fight for it one quiet, exhausted morning at a time.

sense4242 · 2025-04-18T10:00:26+00:00

You have to let go of the hate, brother . Hating her and wishing for her downfall is eating you alive and does nothing to make your life better. I know it’s hard but you have to let it go. She’s living her life and so should you.

Illustrious_Can_7698 · 2025-04-18T08:23:37+00:00

The best revenge you could ever get is to let her go, be happy, and let someone else love you. As others have said, if you hold on to your anger and grief, she keeps on winning. Not only did she ruin the marriage, she probably also spends 0% of her time thinking about you.

I know it is easy to say and it takes a lot of effort to get to that goal, but as others have told me: there is light to come, it will get better, but you also need to let yourself feel all the hurt and you need to work with yourself to get yourself into that new state of mind.

Don't live your life in Hell just because of someone like that.

Conscious-Ad-7338 · 2025-04-18T05:54:15+00:00

Just concern yourself with your kid, bro. You need to find the resilience and fortitude to be a complete satisfied individual all on your own, regardless of what anyone else on the planet thinks or does. You don't seem worthless at all, and what good is a cheater like that in your life anyway, she's someone else's problem now. You have everything youll ever need inside you; there is nothing you can ever do or change about yourself that will make you worth more than you are as you are. There's nothing anything can ever say about you or do to you that will make you worth less. She's just the noise and bullshit of life, stay true to yourself and focus on your happiness

LearnGrowExist · 2025-04-18T05:40:48+00:00

Grief, man. Fucking blows.

Try to remember how you felt 2.5 years ago. And just look how far you’ve come. You will be okay. But allow yourself the pain and tears when they come.

And remember: 3 years of (I assume more than) 7 is still less than half of the time, energy, care, love, hope, and respect you poured your whole self (heart, body, mind) out for someone who disposed of you with the flip of a switch.

Who does that? A self-centered and ultimately hollow shell of a person. A narcissist. Someone who, at the end of the day, you are still glad to have escaped from. Even on the hardest days.

upvotersfortruth · 2025-04-18T05:03:14+00:00

I didn't even get an acknowledgment or an apology.

Why would you even mention this? If you're still holding this like you are the rest of your anger, she keeps winning everyday. I hope she doesn't know you're this angry or you're just fueling her.

It's been three years, you need to see someone. This isn't healthy for you or your kid.

The title doesn't fit the post - because you seem pretty fucking far from worthless my bro.

Title	Feeling worthless.
Author	AgreeableSun537
Upvotes	37
Comments	12
Date	April 18, 2025 4:49 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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