OK so going though separation and have been asking her to go to therapy and work on the marriage. Suspect her of running around on me. She has not wanted to do it. Then she goes to legal council followed by her own therapy to then state shell go. There are some disputes about child custody and the cold calculating behavior just puts me off that it's not actually with the intent of working on the marriage.

I have been a better parent then her, no abuse, nothing on my end to really be concerned other then the fighting , being gaslit, and bounging around inrespose to her shit.

Any experience of therapy being used as a legal tool? Or should I let down my guard and hope it works out?