Pain?

SkullValleyCowboy · 2020-12-29T08:10:43+00:00

I doubt it. If they toxic, they’ll not admit fault to anyone, including themselves. You gotta find your happiness and go forward. Yes, you’ll feel pain, but try to find time to enjoy the journey out of that Pain cause you’re on your way to much better days my friend.

ivantowerz · 2020-12-29T15:35:41+00:00

Divorce is just like a bigger legal breakup. The same rules apply. They will realize it the second you don't care anymore. As long as they can sense you still care, they will feel like you are still somewhere in the back burner in case they change their mind. So the best thing to do is to work on moving on and try not to think about her perspective at all.

Fuck her, she was willing to lose you, even if she realizes she fucked up, give her the gift of ghosting her for her stupidity and that feeling of having "the one" in her past that they let go.

Runningoutofbacon · 2020-12-29T12:51:38+00:00

Better question is why bother worrying about it? The opposite to love is indifference. Seeking revenge of any ill will on your ex will only make you feel worse.

Jonger1150 · 2020-12-29T20:40:10+00:00

Women don't mourn divorce like men. They generally seem cold and without a care in the world.

MartyMcFly7 · 2020-12-29T22:02:11+00:00

Not likely.

Research suggests that women -- nearly 100% of the time -- blame the man for the breakup. Women are also more likely to remember all the negatives and forget the positives. This feeling grows even stronger when they enter into another relationship.

So... maybe you can take some comfort in knowing her biology is basically forcing her to adopt a false narrative about how much you suck, so she can uncouple more easily. But her opinion of you shouldn't matter anyway. Just go on being the awesome person that you are, take what you can from the relationship, let it go, and start over.

hotantipasta · 2020-12-29T12:55:55+00:00

Maybe, but even if they do you will never know.

internetTroll151 · 2020-12-29T16:15:26+00:00

Yes, right after you introduce her to your new GF that is prettier, younger and makes more money,, and she realizes a divorced woman is damaged goods.

NohoTwoPointOh · 2020-12-30T01:52:47+00:00

In the words of the famous poet and scholar named Roger Sterling...

"Who cares?"

Going_Blissfully · 2020-12-29T12:07:44+00:00

Not when she gets a fat check from you for the next couple decades of your life (the wallet being the entire reason they were with you in the 1st place).

Edit: I see the truth is hurting the women scrolling these threads with the downvoting. Yes, mine only married me for the utility I provided and has financially ruined me throughout the divorce process. Downvote all you want. But the only thing she will ever miss is when I finally get to stop supporting her. Never the destruction or detonating a marriage / breaking up a family.., all without so much as saying a single word about it beforehand.

Specific-Function342 · 2020-12-29T23:25:48+00:00

"Yes,right after you introduce her to your new girlfriend who is prettier and makes more money................."

Well that's offensive. I'm a divorced woman and I am by no means damaged. His new little girl, in this situation, according to my ex, isn't prettier and doesn't make more money but she does obey and being in control is what gets him off but I digress,divorced women are wiser women not damaged women. Just sayin!

Title	Pain?
Author	sajid94
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	December 29, 2020 7:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/km9tu4/pain/
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