The other guy

hardlivin9 · 2023-08-30T01:13:35+00:00

And of course, it’s the guy she kept around after I expressed my concern about their “friendship” early in our relationship after she asked me to remove any females from my social medias. “You have nothing to worry about” lol

just_shady · 2023-08-30T01:17:14+00:00

I don’t know why women always bring stranger around their daughters. So many stories about “mamas” boyfriend.

lyricbaritone2 · 2023-08-30T03:15:16+00:00

Bro...right now it's very important for you to become the man that you want to be without the validation of a woman. I want you to know that your children will be out of your control going forward. Do your best for yourself and if that means you are not as involved then so be it. Let this Gump take on the dead weight that was your ex. My daughters mother is a horrible pos woman....I'm digusted I put a baby in her. Anyhow between her and her best friend that I got with after I left her put me in a position that is unenviable and ultimately I was never able to fully connect emotionally with my daughter. And now having been single mother raised, she's completely fucked up and I have washed my hands of the situation. She lives 3 hours away and I don't pay any support. I was basically a sperm donor to her mother. As for my current and only ex wife I will ever have. She ultimately turned out to be a major head case and was a cheater. She turned up with herpes somehow and claims she never messed around with anyone while with me. I will never know the truth. What I do know is she had a straight up had an emotional affair for nearly 3 years while married to me right in front of me. She didn't care how it made me feel. At one point due to the history we shared with the ap I was friendly on the phone with him and now I do regret ever allowing him into my personal life again. Long story short, modern women are not trained to be good wives and mothers. The Bible instructs them to honor their husband and submit to him. They don't need to do that now with no authority in their lives except that of the state that they can then use against the men that they are supposed to submit to. Bottom line, be the man you were supposed to be without that bitch and you will find peace quiet and freedom. Welcome to the free agent lifestyle brother.

CrazySanta7 · 2023-08-30T11:26:51+00:00

This story gets re - written time after time.. she likely had this planned at the tail end of the marriage. If you try and say anything, you will be deemed 'controlling'. This relationship will likely fail quickly. My ex wife did the same. My daughter decided to live with me after my ex tried to force the boyfriend into her life (she was 8, though). My daughter is still with me 100% years later. My ex and boyfriend broke up, and my daughter still won't even visit her. Not sure i have great advice, except to continue to be a great dad and keep your emotions out of it in front of your ex and daughter. State your concern, then leave it alone. It sucks, but good luck bro.

FairCar7137 · 2023-08-30T08:48:52+00:00

Also, I find it important to mention that I left her, I had been completely devalued and emasculated, manipulated into having a child (I’m thankful for her, wasn’t ready). I had assumptions there was something going on and the timeline of things kinda confirms them.

Far_Excitement_4835 · 2023-08-30T09:40:28+00:00

Going through the same nonsense

Do what you can for your daughter and take it one step at a time

Document everything

Courts with proof are difficult to deny

AdrianInLimbo · 2023-08-30T09:42:01+00:00

She's going to have him around regardless of your feelings. Sorry to be blunt.

She's caught up in "playing house" with the boyfriend, and needs to have him integrated into her and your daughter's life ASAP, partly as a "fuck you" to you, and partly to validate her "new family" she's building.

With your daughter being young, take as much time as you can with your daughter. Be the stable parent. Don't bring firlfire6around early in any relationships you have going forward, don't shit talk the ex to your daughter. You'll have to address it, when your daughter asks, but simply say it's "Mommy's Friend".

Simply put, be the adult, let the Ex be the hormonal teen. Keep an eye on things, if there's anything concerning, bring it up with the court. And concentrate on being dad. The boyfriend, if he lasts, will never be her dad.

upvotersfortruth · 2023-08-30T09:47:12+00:00

pure fantasy of hers ... but hey, your divorce was pretty quick.

steaksauce872 · 2023-08-30T12:29:54+00:00

Ugh this is so shit. My wife has been talking to someone since the beginning of this, she claimed that he didn’t exist til after she filed, which was bullshit. I am not looking forward to when she wants to introduce this doofus to our two daughters. I’m sorry for what you are going through, I hate divorce

captainchippsixx · 2023-08-30T14:44:40+00:00

That means she was sleeping with him when you expressed concern. Don’t do any favors to her. What a shitty wife and person.
What comes around goes around.

I can’t fathom an asshole staying with a cheater. So he uses her and then will ghost her. Hopefully it’s not to move in to ur her for assets.

Acrobatic_Access_905 · 2023-08-30T15:49:46+00:00

We all know your pain. I'm so sorry you're going through it. My wife made a "friend" that her mother introduced her to while they were on vacation. Her mom convinced her to have an affair and leave me. We have two young children together, and their grandma fucking conspired to destroy their family. My wife never even hid it after I found out. She just walked out the door and said she hasn't loved me in years and she never came back. Told the judge she's been in a sexual relationship with her AP since she met him, before telling me she wanted the divorce, but of course "it wasn't cheating because I decided then and there I wanted to leave you. I just hadn't told you yet."

marineexmo · 2023-08-31T04:39:54+00:00

Do women take classes on how to be ruthless, deceptive, and inhuman? I went through this evilness over 40 years ago, and I see not much has changed. So believe me when I say that this is not new! They listen to these jerks, the seductive wordsmith, and think they'll dump us and start a new family with a new daddy for our children. He'll use her as long as it doesn't get too serious, then dump her, even violently if necessary, like in my hard-headed ex-wife's case. Even had him around my kids. She wouldn't accept that he just wanted her body for sex, so it took a Mike Tyson like punch to get the message across.

I thank God for my healing and the new life I've been blessed with for 37 wonderful years. My heart bleeds for the men that have gone through this all these years later after mine. There are some true and faithful women out there, like my wife, who these evil doers are turning good men against.

Title	The other guy
Author	hardlivin9
Upvotes	19
Comments	21
Date	August 30, 2023 1:12 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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