Take care of yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.

Get a vasectomy.

Don't move in or let her move in. Keep your space.

Protect your relationship with your kids at all times even if it means losing her.

Get your blood work checked. Male hormones panel. Use privatemedlabs.com - costs a few hundred but you'll see if you're lacking testosterone or other deficiencies.

Online dating is fairly easy. Pick one app. FB dating is the best. It's free and easy. Update your pictures.

Regardless of what women say, they are ALL full of shit. They virtue signal a lot. If they say they want a LTR, they're still down to bone after a few dates.

Have and use Uber. Do not risk getting a DUI when you go out.

Be confident. Can't stress this enough. Fake it if you have to. Confidence will carry you.

Don't be afraid to use Viagra or Cialis. Try both and see which one works best. I personally use Cialis daily at 5mg. Game changer. Get a prescription.

Get some clothes that fit. There's great apps like Stately or Stitch Fix. Try them and if you don't like the clothes, send them back.

Travel and do what you want now.