What should I do !!

Dangerous_Item_6879 · 2023-01-27T12:14:30+00:00

Get out now.

MoronLoserF · 2023-01-27T06:17:34+00:00

How old are you any kids and current circumstances. If your age is 40 or under and you no kids involved. Then run. Have you tried getting her help? ADHD and depression and then bipolar on top of that. I mean if you have kids will she be a good mother?

You have to think selfishly sometimes.

If I were you I would be getting ready to divorce.

EnvironmentalAd3558 · 2023-01-27T07:00:01+00:00

It sounds like a time bomb to me. Waiting may just put you in a worse situation. Do not have a child with this woman. Marriage is a partnership. Would you go into business with somebody who says they’re going to sue you?

upvotersfortruth · 2023-01-27T15:19:19+00:00

Three years and no kids in your 30s - probably better for both of you to go your separate ways.

EvidencePlz · 2023-01-27T19:15:22+00:00

bipolar and ADHD and depression

Get out yesterday. Today's women would have kicked you out long time ago if you suffered from just one of those.

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-01-27T15:29:29+00:00

You need to immerse yourself in /r/marriedredpill if you want any hope of changing course before divorce. Start by reading the sidebar.

Objective_Problem_90 · 2023-01-27T15:49:47+00:00

If you have no kids, it may be best to lawyer up and get out. My ex is bipolar, narcissistic and it eventually came to a point where neither of us were speaking at all.

Throwaway4120213 · 2023-01-27T19:38:02+00:00

You are in your 30s, no kids, short marriage, dealing with a spouse with bipolar/ADHD/depression and problematic in-laws?

Dude get out now.

If you stay in this marriage and have kids - 100% chance you end up in this same spot and divorced 10-15yrs later except you can say goodbye to half your assets, pay child support and alimony and most importantly - have wasted 10-15yrs of your life being miserable because you were too scared to get a divorce.

Maybe this is an unpopular opinion but in my opinion - one’s family and parents do influence how people turn out. My ex turned into her mom who was self-centered, manipulative, entitled after telling me she would never turn out like her mom…reality is it’s hard to break out of learned behavior/thinking/teachings that has been subconsciously and consciously embedded into someone as a child.

captainchippsixx · 2023-01-27T15:55:31+00:00

My first instinct would be to get out. If she lied to you already about her medical then she lies to you all the time. Don’t give her warning. Just see a lawyer and work the plan.
Lay it out to your family the day before you drop it. When your ready then do it.

Bluedemon52 · 2023-01-27T14:58:08+00:00

Dude if you communicate with her the way you wrote this post, I can see where the issues come from.

Take your time and work out more detailed thoughts and explanations.

I get coming here to ask for advise or share, it's why most of us are here.

Your post is hard to read and isn't cohesive at all. Try again.

derelictherds · 2023-01-27T22:51:35+00:00

Get out before you end up having children with this cretin.

thenotknown2022 · 2023-01-28T00:00:08+00:00

mental illness is the worst, you will never win.

sounds like my marriage.

get out now, get out yesterday

go no contact, get an attorney, tell her anything she needs to say call my attorney, and block her on your phone. if she is nuts and mentally owns you, this is your only way out.

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2023-01-29T20:34:55+00:00

I’m starting to believe a good majority of these mental health diagnoses are utter bullshit.

Title	What should I do !!
Author	MusicianAlone8327
Upvotes	2
Comments	27
Date	January 27, 2023 5:36 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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