You know...a little mutual respect wouldn't kill us...

UnimportantOutcome67 · 2025-10-09T22:54:05+00:00

I have a daily affirmation for myself, remind myself I am worthy, and all that.

I also have a daily affirmation for her; remind me of what I am dealing with:

"X is a dangerous animal, nothing more. As such, she merits no emotional response from me, only the respect one affords a rabid dog. Her provocations are the equivalent of a monkey throwing its' own feces. Every time I don't react, I win. I am at peace as the Villain in her narrative."

Ok-Elephant4746 · 2025-10-09T14:21:02+00:00

This was exactly my marriage. The best decision was to divorce her, especially for the kid, who doesn’t have to live in a war zone any more.

Ok-Cause1108 · 2025-10-09T13:52:28+00:00

Should have married a guy if you wanted that.

Feminine energy is chaos.

Feisty_Elderberry_96 · 2025-10-09T11:57:52+00:00

Embrace being the bad guy. Being the villain.

But try your best to never argue with her or give her any ammunition. Ever.

Know she will try to alienate friends, teachers, doctors, therapists against you.

Consider implementing the BIFF or Grey rock method of communication. Being firm and friendly - and concise (remember no arguing) will drive her nuts. ChatGPT can help your form your txts to her - just ask for help with BIFF responsea.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-10-09T06:42:50+00:00

I have to be the villain, so she can be the victim saint. She cheated brutally. It's like talking to a mental patient. After 6 months, completely gave up on any communication besides hi and goodbye.

I don't even asks how the kids are anymore, I'll see for myelf when I come over, since she just replies "good" or with a thumbs up.

Insane bitch. Sometimes I wonder how she lives with herself.

Content-Class1259 · 2025-10-09T06:23:56+00:00

There is no mutual respect, I have no respect for her at all.

She f#%ked me over and didn’t think twice. I couldn’t care less about her, her future, her health….

Eric_C_Productions · 2025-10-09T04:05:07+00:00

As a guy, if we ever figure out how women think and unlock their "code", then we wouldn't be divorcing them or dying before them.

upvotersfortruth · 2025-10-09T02:18:52+00:00

Never ceases to amaze me how we expect more reasonableness and respect during a divorce than we got during the marriage. I'm guilty of having the same expectations, but it's nonsensical upon reflection.

Slowloris81 · 2025-10-09T02:13:57+00:00

You’re right. But that’s asking too much. If there was mutual respect I don’t think we’d be divorced.

iqeq_noqueue · 2025-10-09T02:09:44+00:00

Right? Like who is this person?! Do they remember anything at all?!

Title	You know...a little mutual respect wouldn't kill us...
Author	G00cher
Upvotes	16
Comments	26
Date	October 9, 2025 2:02 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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