"The Ick"

HappyRainbowSparkle · 2024-07-26T14:55:16+00:00

I don't think tiktok is a good representation of any group

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-07-26T15:12:30+00:00

So by your reasoning the vast majority of relationships and marriages should be ended by the woman relatively quickly but I don't see that happening. Is there any evidence for this happening? How do you know this isn't a temporary feeling and these women are actually leaving their boyfriends when the tiktok is over? How do you know some of this content isn't staged or dramatized for views? And how do you know these teenage influencers actually represent all women?

pencilbride2B · 2024-07-26T14:53:17+00:00

Firstly these girls are girls, are they like 16?

You don't get the ick with someone you already love. The ICK is just another way of saying a pet peeve or a red flag. There are dumb stuff online all the time. Get off tik tok stop watching and doom scrolling. Someone who actually likes you won't get the ick, haven't you seen all kinds of women stay married to all kinds of men. If everyone was getting the ick over small silly things, then no one would ever be in relationships.

mikey_weasel · 2024-07-26T15:19:46+00:00

This trend sounds like something quite unhelpful for you to engage with. There have been versions of this for years. Its popped up on reddit before where there will be an r/askreddit question about what women dislike in a partner and other people will react to that list as overwhelming. Because it is.

But its also a sorting problem. You are in a situation where you are collecting everyone's dealbreakers without any sense that its different people all of whom have a bunch of things they do like as well. You don't have to impress every single one of these women at once. What matters is figuring out if the woman you are currently dating finds anything you do a bit "ick".

Even if your girlfriend finds something "ick", its not a death sentence for a relationship. It might be that their "ick" is something that is very minor, and doesn't mean anything to you. Like their "ick" might be that you only wash your gym clothes once a month. It takes very little effort to change that. There have been a few small things with every partner I've had that I have modified (and the inverse, small things I've asked of them).

Enough-Enthusiasm762 · 2024-07-26T23:01:51+00:00

The ick started off as something relatable that anyone who has a crush can relate to. We all have those moments where we see our crush acting cringe or gross that makes us go “ick”.

But more people have been using it, especially for more serious things such as red flags, which I think waters down the original context of the word.

Also, a lot of the stuff you see girls get “icked out” by are jokes. Like “when he chases after a ball” yeah that can look silly and cringe, but it’s nbd and we all have silly, cringe, and embarrassing moments that make others go “ick”

Difficult_Ferret2838 · 2024-07-26T15:24:28+00:00

The point of any given tik tok video is to get your attention, not spread Truth.

flipsidetroll · 2024-07-26T21:21:02+00:00

First, just want to state that suddenly getting “the ick” over a minor thing with someone you already have a relationship with, is fucking juvenile and moronic. Thinking someone seems a good match, meeting them a couple times, and getting the ick, could actually have a biological reason for it.

There is evidence from research that women have the ability to “smell” genetic compatibility. It’s hard to explain exactly what the sense is, but it is enabled by a cluster of genes. A man could be perfect “on paper”, but when they meet, she will be almost turned off by him. Now how would she explain why she thinks that? It would be a feeling, he makes her feel ick. The BC pill turns off the ability. And when women stop taking it, they may find themselves suddenly turned off by their long term partners. They suddenly feel the ick when their ability is switched back on. Of course, much more research would need to be done. But it’s certainly interesting and the hormonal BC pill may cause more damage than initially thought, by literally changing who women are attracted to.

Just some information that may help explain sometimes illogical behaviour. It’s even been suggested that females of many/all have this ability. Eg. When a male bird spends days building a nest, only to have a female swoop down and spend 5 seconds next to him, to fly off. She may not be rejecting the nest, she may be rejecting his genes based on what she smells.

WWhiMM · 2024-07-26T16:15:19+00:00

That sounds like people joking around, and they are exaggerating their feelings for comedic effect.
Do you personally know anyone whose relationship ended because the guy did an ick type of thing?

watsonyrmind · 2024-07-26T15:27:44+00:00

When you are in a relationship, there will unequivocally be things you don't love about your partner. Be prepared for that.

Women mention those things - usually lightheartedly - in this trending meme about "the ick". If you don't want a girlfriend that would make jokes like that, simply don't date one. It's not a hugely common thing in the grand scheme of things, but lightly deprecating jokes between/about partners is not uncommon either.

Just as you will choose traits you value in a partner, be more discerning about the content you choose to consume. If this or any other content bothers you, stop watching it. You have control over this.

IcyTrapezium · 2024-07-26T23:56:39+00:00

I first remember encountering this from Seinfeld. In that show Jerry would dump women over stupid stuff like how they ate their peas. It was a running joke.

People don’t get out of long term relationships because of minor stuff like this. I think “the ick” people feel on a first or second date is more likely just a lack of chemistry generally.

maybememaybeno · 2024-07-27T10:18:18+00:00

I don’t think ‘the ick’ is a serious thing. I remember when I was dating if I really liked a guy I would start noticing ‘icks’ but it was mostly because I actually really really liked them, so my brain would do this weird defence mechanism thing where I’d become critical in my mind about everything that the guy did. If a guy got to the ick stage with me then I was already totally obsessed with them so no ick was going to be an actual dealbreaker

PearlieSweetcake · 2024-07-26T16:49:01+00:00

There are always going to be small things in the course of a relationship that give minor icks. Clothes your partner wears, ways he reacts to things, choices he makes with his career.

It's how you receive the criticism that matters and if the yucks don't outweigh the yums or not.

Also, referring people as broken is not helpful. No one is ever really broken. They are just sick and need to get better.

Throww556 · 2024-07-30T05:49:09+00:00

Nah the whole "ick" thing is real, TikTok is just exaggerating it. First like month or so of dating is always like a game to avoid not expressing what might give someone "the ick" and it's part of why dating is so cooked. Nobody wants to work out small issues and they'd rather get someone who is the whole package, even if they aren't.

Mind you, it exists on both sides, but let's not kid ourselves and act like it doesn't exist at all.

SweelFor- · 2024-07-27T16:34:33+00:00

In order to not rage, I recommend not consuming rage bait content

Bruciesballs666 · 2024-08-04T04:57:51+00:00

I think it's a younger generation and or immaturity thing.

I'm a 31 year old woman in a relationship with a 37 year old man. I don't get the "ick".

2024-08-08T02:39:31+00:00

Men do alot of stuff that turn women off or give them the “ick”.

Women also do alot of stuff that turn men off.

It is what it is. Grow up buddy

Difficult_Ferret2838 · 2024-08-10T21:20:32+00:00

The point of a tik tok video is to get a reaction out of you, not to tell the truth.

Anjemivas_ · 2024-08-11T10:29:21+00:00

Did you know only 10-20 percent of the world's population makes content on social media and only a small percentage of those posts get popular? Most users are viewers and not creators. The world's population is also 7.9 billion so what you see on social media is only created by 10-20 percent of people on earth and if the content is interviewing people, the percentage may be even lower of those 7.9 billion people's beliefs, even this subreddit only represents less than 0.1 percent of the world's population considering it's only 24k, what do you think about that?

Accurate_Problem_480 · 2024-08-26T03:32:53+00:00

😏 hey I tried a recipe from tiktok that EVERYONE said "it's amazing, it's delicious" .... Well they lied!!! Don't trust a single thing from tiktok!! Tiktok is just kids trying to get money without having to work they will do and say anything for attention and the kids answering are still looking for a personality.

Layer_Think · 2024-09-01T14:11:48+00:00

I think that the “Ick” and the trend that comes along with it is just a very toxic trend and a word that people on TikTok throw around way too easily, as others mentioned in this feed someone who likes you will not have the “ick” that is ridiculous, I’m the most goofy and at times painful person to my partner yet they still love me for me, in my opinion this whole “Ick” thing is encouraging people to be something they’re not. Redpill and all the stupid junk that comes along with it relies off confirmation bias which ends up making one feel worse about themselves, I’d know because I was one of them.

dancetoken · 2025-01-31T15:05:52+00:00

stay single lil bro

imagine building a life with your wife, 3 years later, house, children, happiness .... then she gets the ick ... divorces your ass and takes everything you worked for.

Title	"The Ick"
Author	Different-Fan-1474
Upvotes	8
Comments	50
Date	July 26, 2024 2:35 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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