Why do women really get approached so much by men, online and irl?

Remandergrowth · 2023-02-01T23:52:38+00:00

There are a couple of reasons for this.

Society puts the pressure of starting relationships on men who often have to make the first moves.
Men prioritize attractiveness in potential partners, so once a woman checks the attractiveness box, they often want to shoot for a relationship to see if more is possible.
Men are often taught that women are the key to happiness. So unhappy men think women will solve their internal loneliness.
Many men are evaluated upon how many women they can bed. There is a reason why virgin shaming is a thing. A long dryspell often can mess with a man's self-esteem, so he tries to avoid that by approaching more.
In a world where the odds of a yes from a woman are not in your favor, you have to increase attempts for potential successes.

Mean_Mechanic9889 · 2023-02-01T23:58:08+00:00

Even on reddit mentioning you're a woman tends to get messages. Really low quality spamming messages. Which is odd because they know your gender and that's it.

Tbh the more attractive you present in real life the less come ons you get (ironically) I think men get nervous. But online they're brave. An average woman in everyday life has to learn gentle kind rejection though.

Nuclearwaifu · 2023-02-02T02:22:50+00:00

They only do this if the woman is conventionally attractive. And they do it because it‘s both socially accepted for men to make the first approach, as well as also entitlement to those women for some guys.

thetruthishere_ · 2023-02-02T02:55:35+00:00

I think many men here overestimate IRL approaching and I come from a time before the net where it was a 'thing'.

Bottom line it, men are thirsty and into casual more even if they like men.

SophiaPhilae · 2023-02-02T00:27:11+00:00

That's the social roles assigned to people even quite early in life. Women are supposed to be pretty, passive, and waiting for a man. Men are supposed to be strong, active, and always seeking a woman until not single anymore. Deviants are punished in various ways, like with mockery, lack of role models, added difficulties in dating, etc.

Empyrean_Truth · 2023-02-01T23:19:23+00:00

They want sex or because they think we're pretty and just.. have this urge to see if they can make a connection.

On the flip side since I feel like women can usually get a steady stream of attention that method, they don't really do the converse of approaching men since there's no need.

vasanthan_b · 2023-02-02T05:07:20+00:00

I'm just asking to know, Why do most of the women don't approach men for relationship or casual stuffs or whatever?

Nightchanger · 2023-02-02T05:38:04+00:00

Do you confess to guys you like often?

Xx_SwordWords_xX · 2023-02-02T01:21:36+00:00

Because men aren't choosey and they shoot their shot as broadly as they can.

LeggyProgressivist · 2023-02-01T21:27:09+00:00

Our society has decided it’s better to leave someone alone than potentially make them uncomfortable. One side effect of this is that cold-approaches go down.

AffectionateAd8901 · 2023-02-01T23:44:19+00:00

Quick and easy:

-> You are a young women, attractive to many men

-> Guys who only want to get laid hope you´re an easy catch

-> You get reduced to your outside

-> Your real value will only be visible for people who are honest about relationships

Men who approach you straight up, without knowing you, may just wanna get laid.

That guy who dreamily looks at you, may is dreaming of a future with you.

CalmLake1 · 2023-02-01T23:26:21+00:00

IMO. Feminine will always and forever be more attractive and appreciated more than masculine. Universally men appreciate women's Bodies more than men's bodies. You're my age so you being approached, it's gonna happen. Sometimes you'll like it, most times you won't. You have the power to allow who you want in your life. It's the power of the feminine. I will most likely never be approached irl or online, I'm gonna have to pursue. it is what it is and I'm not mad about it. But I can lift heavy things and.....idk.....make thirst traps chopping trees or something. The power of the masculine. There's pros and cons to this shit mama.

stokroteczka_011 · 2023-02-02T07:34:06+00:00

yeah, sometimes. but it depends a lot on where you live.

mina_starcat · 2023-02-02T13:25:55+00:00

Because gurus online preach that it's a more effective method in finding a potential partner.

xvszero · 2023-02-02T17:33:22+00:00

It'd be tough to say without studying history. There were points, probably not even very long ago, when a woman approaching a man would be out of the question. We're slowly evolving away from that but these things take time.

I'm speaking of people who want relationships. Obviously a lot of guys just want quick sex too so they approach a bunch of women because that's just an odds game to them.

Slevenn711 · 2023-02-02T19:20:08+00:00

I've noticed a lot of people are saying society is mostly the reasoning for this, and while I think there are societal expectations at play, like a man paying for dates and being expected to approach, I also think biology comes into play.

Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I would know, as not only a man, but a man who has supplemented it. For most men, even seeing a women they find attractive will set off an urge in their brain to observe her. It's why you see married men checking out the hot girl that walks by, right in front of his wife, who promptly scolds him lol. Not only that, but everything in your body is telling you to approach her, but most men won't, because their brain catches up with their dick and they beginning rationalizing.

Don't believe me? Go to a nightclub or a bar with a dance floor. Observe the men there. A large majority will be standing around, drink in hand, simply scanning the room with their eyes. Most women are not doing this.

Title	Why do women really get approached so much by men, online and irl?
Author	willstdumichstressen
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Date	February 1, 2023 9:21 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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