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[–]ilikesoy_Throwaway Account236 points237 points238 points 6 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
and ones who blame their abusive actions on their kink.
theyre porn sick and want to hurt you. end of story.
[–]chokeychokeyFDS Disciple111 points112 points113 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Anyone who can stomach mistreating you for their own pleasure is sick PERIOD.
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 55 points56 points57 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just another excuse for their CRUELTY!
[–]90sCosmoEnergyFDS Disciple16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I once confronted a man on some porn-y degrading bedroom behavior and asked him point-blank, "dear God, how would you feel if someone treated your niece like that?!"
His response? "Well it's different, she's just a little girl."
... uh, you do get that I didn't come out of my mother's womb in a skirt suit and heels with a 401K, right? I know this might be a lot for your tiny man brain to comprehend, but I, too, was once a little girl.
[–]VaporwaveVampirePickmeisha™️16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It’s crazy how it’s considered healthy and even progressive to beat up your wife/girlfriend/sexual partner. Even if someone says yes or thinks she’s ok with it, it’s not alright. In a BDSM subreddit, I once saw information on creating tears in the vaginal canal from violent penetration.
[–]ilikesoy_Throwaway Account14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bdsm is not a kink. its abuse. and its disgusting.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What?!
How fucked up can men get? Jfc.
[–]Bitemebitch00FDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Woah truth
[–]M1ssAndreFDS Newbie120 points121 points122 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
i mean yuh, course, but it's more complicated than that, these guys aren't outright mean to you they're manipulative, if you ever try to bring up something they did they'd turn around and make it look like they're the victim or start blaming you. Of course cut out the Fuck boys, Mommy boys, and manipulators, Cut out anyone that doesn't make you feel like the boss ass bitch that you are, you rule sis.
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[–]dizzinglyFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Good for you!!! Ugh his reaction is so far from accountability or an APOLOGY it’s astounding
[–]meanemadFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
you should not have contact if it is not about work, think that you dont treat that way even a random person. what kind of idiot has to degrade the hobby of a person that it is supossed he "apreciate". pathetic put downs for try to be over you.🤮😂
[–]persephones_torchFDS Disciple242 points243 points244 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Part of the brainwashing we get as little girls when we complain about the boy in class that pulled our hair or threw something at us. "He's mean to you because he likes you". It's so harmful to us and becomes the gateway to clown life.
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 73 points74 points75 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is an amazing observation and highly damaging for girls! WTF?! 🤦♀️
[–]queen-me-FDS Newbie60 points61 points62 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
God, I love/hate this sub. Every day I read something that I had never really considered or given a second thought. I'm so happy we're all here to call these things out for the misogynistic garbage that they are and be aware together, but it's also kind of disheartening when you realize how rampant misogyny really is in our society. It's literally everywhere, even in our language when speaking to young, elementary school-aged girls :(. At least if I ever hear anyone say this to a young girl around me again, I know I will say/do something about it.
[–]pinkyberriesFDS Disciple163 points164 points165 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Pickmes date vile men thinking they can turn them into the kind loving boyfriend. So sad.
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 118 points119 points120 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yep. And apparently now Pickmes are getting on their knees and proposing to LVM in public... some already have babies for them too. 🤦♀️
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[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 45 points46 points47 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
They hate it, and they don’t respect the pick me’s who do it. In fact, there are many male videos laughing and mocking these proposals.
[–][deleted] 16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s the most horrifying thing I’ve ever seen on reddit. COULDNT BE ME.
[–]nana19_FDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When I see those videos I’m like, omg 🤦♀️ poor girl
[–]DatonecatladyuknoFDS Apprentice44 points45 points46 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love this. Simple and to the point. Negging isn’t cute it’s abuse
[–]Such_Stardust14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I think it's really important that we aren't shaming women. Fine there are some pickmes that need set aright... But most times it's MEN hiding their true selves.
Let's be careful with out "I wish women would get this" kind of statements and maybe turn them into "Let's start seeing men for who they are sooner... And act accordingly"
[–]MandJtraveltogetherFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep I agree. The “why don’t women understand...” statements are what I always groan at. Don’t blame women because men are shitty. Blame the men for being shitty and tell them to grow up.
[–]RedMoonFlowerAt-Risk Pick Me Youth2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly!
[–]azngirl7689At-Risk Pick Me Youth56 points57 points58 points 6 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
Why would anyone want a man who is mean? That’s crazy. Even in my pick me days I’d push back on it.
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 139 points140 points141 points 6 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
Have a look at 99.9% of the posts from women on Reddit, asking “am I overreacting?” , “AITA?”?
You will see that all of these women are with men who are BLATANTLY, OPENLY, IN THEIR FACE, OUTRIGHT MEAN TO THEM!
He’s not “having a bad day”, he doesn’t “have weird kinks”, he didn’t “accidentally slip his d*ck in your *ss after you said no”, and he’s not “waiting to see where things go” with you and your relationship.
HE’S FUCKING MEAN AF, AND HE DOESN’T GIVE A FUCK.
This is the simple point that an astounding amount of women don’t get! Stop making excuses for his grizzly mean ass!
Ruthlessly KICK him to the curb, where his CRUEL ass belongs and NEVER look back!
[–]chokeychokeyFDS Disciple50 points51 points52 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Once you start making excuses for him, you’re already screwed.
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[–]lival42FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Any drop of meanness = he’s a waste of oxygen. There is nothing that “redeems” that, that “makes up” for that. Have zero tolerance for it because an absence of meanness is really quite nice and so delightful.
[–]Discordia5FDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was the EXACT message I wish someone said to me years ago! I swear I would have listened, but people don't spell it out to those close to them very often. I got out almost a year ago, but I still read your post a few times over just in case I forget.
[–]SecretServletFDS Newbie62 points63 points64 points 6 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I don't think OP realizes mean guys are really good at hiding their meanness until its too late for a woman to leave easily
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 67 points68 points69 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
A friend of mine told me her husband was a totally different person starting on their wedding night... before then, he was the most warm and loving person. Then he went cold as ice out of nowhere. Scary!
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[–]AliceKingslyAt-Risk Pick Me Youth22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
And this is why I say marriage doesn't change a man. He was always like that. Just waiting to show his true colors.
[–]Platypussy2910 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My sister was complaining that her and her husband never talk or go on dates anymore. Her husband outright told her that now that they’re married he doesnt have to try anymore. 🤦🏻♀️ Um, no, you should be trying even more!
[–]macguffin99FDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It happened to me too. We got engaged and moved in together about a month later. The sex stopped the day we moved in together. And the mistreatments started. I was so confused by the bizarre change in his behaviour but we got married anyway.
The day we got back from our honeymoon, he left his emails to another woman open - on my computer.
He was a truly psychologically sick person, never violent, but clearly filled with hate.
[–]lavender-pearsFDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some abusers will wait until they feel like their victim "can't" leave before they show how shitty they truly are.
[–]alteregoslutvilleFDS Newbie42 points43 points44 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I just ended a relationship like that. He was seriously so kind to me in the first month and a half. That’s what got me. Then when I finally let him in after three months, it’s like a switch went off. Not the same person anymore. It’s so bizarre. Total mind fuck that I’m not dealing with. Took a whole month and this sub to realize what the fuck I got myself into.
[–]xbumblebee6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It really is that simple, but according to most of my friends, understanding this concept is like understanding astrophysics.
It ain’t that hard woman, stop dating assholes! 🤦🏻♀️
[–]IamStereotype3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Simple, man good -> Cool! Have fun together, man bad -> dump his ass
[–]moonligxt3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wished someone told me that when I was a teen
[–]makeitfeelfarawayFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
needed this
[–]BovvsetteFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Who are unreasonably mean to anyone, really. Assholes are consistently assholes, so after the honeymoon phase is over, he'll treat you like all the waitresses and retail workers.
[–]ParticularAmbition9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It really is that simple. I wish more women would get this.
[–]Kaykay0708Pickmeisha™️10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I'm surprised that in this day and age this even needs to be said. 🙄
Have some self-respect. Everything else will come naturally, including rejecting disrespectful men.
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Read AITA and other reddit subs to see how many women are experiencing outright CRUELTY from men, and STAYING.
[–]Kaykay0708Pickmeisha™️0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't need to go to any sub to know that. I personally know people with real-life experiences. And besides that, women putting up with bad and cruel behavior is somewhat still prevalent in the world today.
I'm saying there's enough awareness in the world today for women to know that they don't have to put up with this shit.
[–]AussieAhoyFDS Newbie-2 points-1 points0 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What if they're joking?
Roasting/ banter is big part of the culture where I'm from
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What if who’s joking? Men?
If he’s “joking” constantly at you’re expense, HE’S DELIBERATELY NEGGING YOU AND BEING MEAN ON PURPOSE TO BUILD HIS OWN PATHETIC, WORTHLESS SELF ESTEEM!
He’s not “kidding around”, he’s being abusively CRUEL! Dump his ass with a swiftness.
Let him go “joke” with himself in a corner.
[–]lival42FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Acid test for jokes: Are you the one laughing? No? Then it’s not a joke. Period.
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[–]ilikesoy_Throwaway Account236 points237 points238 points (7 children) | Copy Link
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[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist[S] 55 points56 points57 points (0 children) | Copy Link
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