Hello queens,

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I have been out of the dating/OLD dating game since 2016, year where I met my ex (LVM, abusive, retarded, fuckboy).

I broke up with this boy a year ago, and have dedicated the past 12 months to recovering and taking my power back. I can not start describing the help this sub has brought me into the process. I turned my life around, started surrounding myself with high-value people, focused on my career, my goals, invested in my mental health and personal development, worked out and finally got my dream body back.

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My self-esteem has skyrocketed, but I am still confused when it comes to dating and I need some guidance. My precedent experience with men made me very distrustful of them, so I dreaded dating during the past year and still do as of today.

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I think I have met a HVM, finally, and things are going well, but I do not know how to keep the flow going for 90 days until feeling comfortable enough to get sexually intimate. Also, I am confused with red flags.

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We had two dates so far, each of them a week apart. He initiated each date, paid for the first one only. His suggestions have been high quality enough (the first one was coffee, second one theatre with a couple of drinks afterward. Offered to walk me home and we kissed.)

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His texting rhythm was good until our last encounter. I'm a bit knocked off because this kiss was good, but since then his texting has been pretty irregular. He's still initiating texts, but takes ages to answer. Don't get me wrong, I don't like it so I'm making him wait for me, still talking about my plans and how busy I am too, but it feels like I've lost some of his chasing instinct.

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Situation-wise, he is High Value : a well-paying job, well-traveled, literate, cultured, ambitious, driven, smart, loves working out and has a very good body.

Red-flags I see : a tad self-absorbed. He's a successful man and he knows it (doesn't brag about it either). I am not disclosing everything during our dates, and so far I feel like I know more about him than he does about me. He's small (5'9) considering the fact I'm tall (5'7).

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Would a HVW try and make things continue if he starts being flaky already ?

I things do get better, how can I reprimand this behaviour and make sure he doesn't behave like this in the future ?

Also, I have an issue with him not paying entirely for our last date - how can I turn tables around ?