I started talking to a really sweet man on OLD a few days ago. He seemed really serious and like he had his life in order. 30 years old, owned his own construction firm, nice house. Seemed like a homebody, with nice family values. Albanian descent so from a conservative househould and like he was looking to settle down.

I never give guys my social media as I don’t like being part of their harem and I do not wan’t to give them the chance to screenshot my pictures and pass them and my accounts around to their friends in group chats. We stay talking on OLD until the day a date is about to take place and then I will get their number and call them from a secret number.

This guy made me feel so at ease, we had a great connection and I actually wanted his accounts because he only had one picture and he legit looked like the most handsome man I have seen in my life, I can not even name a celebrity that handsome. I am also familiar with Albanian names and his name on OLDr did not ring a bell for me. I was wary because he just seemed to good to be true.

So when he asked for my Insta I gave it to him but let him know I will not accept him but when can talk via DM. He sends me a DM (I see he has another name their which is in fact Albanian) and before I answer it I take a look at this profile. It looks like a real profile but he is even better looking in his Instagram. He has a few gym pics, car pics and with male/family members. My first instinct is that the way his Instagram is set up he must be a fuckboy. I look at his follows and it’s hundreds of half naked Instagram models all from our country and many are following him back. I block him immediately.

When I go to old to remove him there I can not help to answer his messages of “Did you see my message” “Did you block me?” I tell him politely that I did not like what I saw on his Insta and I feel like we will be a bad match since I wan’t a respectful man with high morals. While I respond to other messages I see the typing dots going for half an hour. When I go to see his answer the guy has written me a novel.

He says that account is an old “joke” account and that it’s not who he is, it is not him at all and that he values me so much he will delete all those girls and the whole account. He does not wan’t to miss a chance with me, he feels I am a miracle, really special, please don’t judge me, this is not me etc. his last message is really long and at the end he sends me another Instagram name and lets me know that he wished he was truthful from the beginning but he didn’t wan’t to scare me away.

I go to check this other account and the man has 3(!!!!) whole kids, like from the age 4-8, he has a whole family! I do a quick google search and see that he atleast is divorced and not cheating, is in fact the ceo of the construction firm but the man is sentenced in court for a violent crime! If I had to guess it’s probably domestic violence considering the crime coinciding with the recent divorce.

I am honestly shook, really chocked as this has warped the image I had in my mind completely. But I took this a reminder that talking online is just air, the person can be something else entirely. Oh, he was also 34 and not 30. In this case he really turned out to be to good to be true and I feel so sorry for his ex-wife to birth him 3 kids only to have this 34 year old father of her children be spending his time deceiving young women online.

Do your research ladies. I am lucky I found this out before meeting him :(