Another proof why you shouldn't talk about your past abuse/relationships to a man especially on the first dates ! they KNOW

tenshicake · 2020-08-26T22:33:01+00:00

What kind of dates are those where people talk about their ex partners? Couldn't be me, especially on the first date what the hell. Also, if a man talks (bad) about his ex girlfriend to a potential new gf it's a red flag to me.

Sage_Planter · 2020-08-26T22:58:43+00:00

Why I always say "we went our separate ways" and wouldn't reveal beyond that. The same way I won't reveal that I use reddit and visit FDS daily.

Edit: either I'm getting downvoted or reddit numbers are on the fritz. If it's the former, keep crying scrotes. We owe you nothing. 💅🏾

slothsomesauce · 2020-08-26T23:27:53+00:00

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dimpledoll13 · 2020-08-26T23:18:58+00:00

"ohh, he was great but didn't meet the level of generosity I require in a long term partner." Then if he wants to waste both y'alls time being a phony, you'll get presents out of the deal.

punkiwi · 2020-08-26T23:05:11+00:00

Some will also ask for things that you used to do/allow with your exes to pressure you into breaking boundaries you have now. Never reveal your past. As far as anyone knows, all my relationships went well and we just decided to go our own ways.

Kimpractical · 2020-08-26T23:27:19+00:00

When you think he isn’t actually paying close attention to you but in reality he’s watching you like a hawk

Orphanedpinkpetals · 2020-08-27T03:04:15+00:00

This makes me wanna cry This has never happened to me but this is actually mean to do to someone who is just looking for companionship

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-08-26T23:10:16+00:00

Right from the horse's mouth.

throwRAwhatisthis · 2020-08-27T02:50:57+00:00

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basicgirl2022 · 2020-08-27T03:12:45+00:00

Omfg. Vet ruthlessly

ello-motto · 2020-08-26T22:45:15+00:00

It pissed me off that my ex didn't give me $1000 dollar gifts/cash every week or ever get my bills paid for me. I broke up with him after he dared to gift me last year's Chanel. Please do the opposite and follow that blueprint. Thanks. 😘

2020-08-27T01:54:50+00:00

and that's so much work!! going on dates and trying to discern whether the man before u is a LVM or not (he is, usually). I like being open and vulnerable bc I've been guarded my entire life to survive. I'm like this, if a friendship w/ a HVM doesn't blossom into something more, I'm not going out looking via apps or blind dates and the like. I'd rather get to know a guy as a friend when the pressure's off and folks are generally more relaxed. But even then?? men will find a way to mask LVM-ness + mold themselves to meet what u want in a man...ah, staying single. D:<

this whole scenario has always reminded me of the song "I Wanna Know" by Joe. seemingly innocuous/"romantic," but there r some sinister implications in the lyrics nonetheless lol

Title	Another proof why you shouldn't talk about your past abuse/relationships to a man especially on the first dates ! they KNOW
Author	balladwilds
Upvotes	321
Comments	30
Date	August 26, 2020 10:24 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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